“To be brave is to face yourself; to acknowledge your pain and to heal your wounds. And even though you were taught to feel guilty, unworthy, and ashamed for being human and for feeling pain, in truth, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty and ashamed about.” ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
In a world that teaches us to constantly place our energy and attention outside ourselves, and mostly never within ourselves, it takes great courage to face yourself.
On Having the Courage to Face Yourself
When you’re always looking out there for instructions, trends, guidance, and directions – allowing the world to dictate your every thought, move, and entire life, taking the time to step aside and question yourself and your life may seem like an impossible thing to do. Just the thought of having to go through ‘so much trouble’ causes so many people to cringe.
Who would want to go through all that ‘mess’?
The majority of people don’t want to do it. They don’t want to face themselves. Or maybe, they don’t even know that this option is available to them. And that they have a right to do so.
If you don’t believe this to be true, just look around you. The world is full of such people who, out of fear of being judged, ridiculed, and marginalized for their ‘lack of strength’, ‘boldness’ and ‘resilience’, they continue to play a game in which they pretend to be something they are not…
It’s the ‘new normal’.
To escape their pain and wounded self, they fill their lives with all kinds of distractions:
- They surround themselves with lots of ‘interesting’ and ‘important’ people;
- They go out as much as possible;
- They travel the world;
- They buy the latest of everything;
- They fill their homes with expensive things;
- They go from one relationship to another;
- They keep themselves and their lives as shinny and as glamorous as possible;
- They stay ‘really busy‘;
- They become ‘super-achievers’ by doing only ‘important things’ and leaving aside the ‘not so important tasks’… And the list goes on and on…
Out of fear of being ridiculed, judged, guilted, and marginalized by those around them for showing ‘signs of weakness’, they run away from themselves.
Why would you face yourself in such ‘harsh’ and ‘risky’ conditions? It’s just not safe!
Fear tells you that facing yourself is a sign of weakness. While running away is a sign of great courage and strength.
But that’s just a lie!
To face yourself is real boldness! To look at yourself in the mirror and admit to yourself that you are hurting and that you are in great need of love, healing and forgiveness, that is true courage, not hiding and running away.
Contrary to what you were lead to believe, there is absolutely nothing shameful about being wounded and feeling lost, alone, and in pain. Nothing shameful about admitting to yourself that you have wounds you need to heal.
It’s the world we’re living in…
When you are constantly being bombarded with darkness in its many disguises, and danger is perceived as always being around the corner, how can you not feel pain? How can you not feel lost, disconnected, abandoned, and all alone?
You are only human.
It’s only natural to feel this way.
But fear wants you to believe otherwise. Fear wants you to run away from your pain. Because it knows that in facing your pain, you will heal it. And in healing your pain, you will take back your power and fear will no longer have power over you…
No matter how hard it may be to take this in, and no matter how much resistance you may feel in your body, the truth of the matter is that pain demands to felt! And it will not go away until it will be acknowledged and healed.
No matter how hard you may try to hide and escape it, the pain will continue to be there. And it will remain there until you decide to take your focus from what is Out there – from what ‘they’ say is right and true for you, and place it Within yourself – to heal, to forgive, and to free yourself from all that fear and darkness so that you can return to a place of peace, safety, and serenity.
There is nothing wrong with admitting to yourself that you are unhappy. Nothing wrong with feeling pain.
Life on planet Earth is intense. Pain is present in all of our lives. And to pretend that everything is okay when in fact it isn’t, will only make things worse.
To be brave is to face yourself; to acknowledge your pain and to heal your wounds. And even though you were taught to feel guilty, unworthy, and ashamed for being human and for feeling pain, in truth, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty and ashamed about.
The most beautiful people that ever walked this Earth faced their pain.
They didn’t run away from it. They used it to discover the greater depths of joy and bliss that were hidden beyond pain. And today you are invited to do the same.
Be brave and Face Yourself.
Heal yourself with your Love.
Heal your life with your Trust.
Heal your family with your Goodness.
Heal your community with your Courage
Heal the world with your Love…
Heal yourself. Heal your wounds. Heal your life. For in healing your wounds, you heal the wounds of your family, your community, your country, and the whole world.
~love, Luminita 💫