“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” ~ Alice Walker
You might not realize this, but many of the things you do so freely – saying ‘yes’ to things you should be saying ‘no’ to, acting in ways that are not congruent with your truth just so you could get the love and approval of those around you, staying in situations, places, and relationships that are toxic and unhealthy, etc., are nothing but ways in which you give your power away to forces outside of you. And because I know what a dangerous thing that is, I wanted to share with you a few ways in which you can take back your power and be true to yourself again.
How to Take Back Your Power and Be True to Yourself Again
The majority of people have no idea how dangerous it is to say ‘yes’ all the time. And how unhealthy it is to constantly try to please everyone around you. (That’s self-betrayal by the way.)
And even though we all fall into this trap from time to time, if you start saying ‘no’ when no is needed, and if you say it with conviction, not only will you take back your power, but you will also reclaim your right to life, to happiness, to purpose, and to love.
2. Stop playing the “I’ll save you” game
I have always loved these words from Buddha:
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” – Buddha
You might think you’re here to save people and lead them back onto their path. But that’s not really Your job.
That’s Their job!
Each individual has his/her own internal guidance and personal power. And it’s up to them to discover their path and why they’re here on this planet. So no matter how tempting it may be to place yourself in the role of savior and give your power away to them, you have to understand that you’re not here to save anyone, nor are you here to convince people that they deserve a better life. You are here to walk your path and live your life your way. And if by doing so you inspire others to do the same, that’s great. If not, it can’t be helped.
I know you’re a good person and you have a hard time walking away. But entertaining guests who literally feed off of your energy will only leave you feeling powerless, confused and depleted of vital energy.
Your life is yours to live. And you have the right to walk away.
You have the right to keep good boundaries and take better care of yourself. So please, take back your power and learn to do what’s right for you.
I know you think you have a right to blame the past, your parents, your partner, your family, the government, or whoever wronged you for whatever negative and toxic emotions that have been stored in your body for all this time. And you may be right. But you know what? It doesn’t really matter anymore.
And you know why?
Because blame is one of the most poisonous things you can hold onto. And the longer you hold onto it, the weaker you will feel and the harder it will become for you to take back your power and be true to yourself again.
It’s just not worth clinging onto. Let it go.
You are a lot more powerful than you think and far more resilient than you give yourself credit for. And you need to start seeing yourself as such.
You need to start trusting yourself again – not when things will get better, not when you will become more confident, not when the Sun will start shining, but now! (Read this article. It will help you >> How to Believe in Yourself Again)
There will be moments in your life when you will be asked to take a journey into the unknown. Moments when nobody will be there to hold your hand and walk your path with you. And when that happens, I want you to remember that you have nothing to fear.
Your Soul is there to guide you.
And if you look within and ask for strength, for wisdom, for courage and confidence, you will discover that you had these things within you all along. So fear not. You’re not alone.
Reclaim your power by doing the things you once loved to do but for some reason stopped doing; by saying ‘no’ when ‘no’ is needed, and by no longer thinking of yourself as small, weak, and powerless.
Reclaim your power by starting to see yourself as the beautiful, strong, bold, and courageous being you were created to be. And by realizing that your life is yours to live and your power is yours to keep. You don’t have to give it away to anyone.
Take back your power from wherever it is that you have left it, and promise yourself to never give it away to anyone, ever again.
What about you? What is one thing you can do today to take back your power and be true to yourself again? You can share your comment in the comment section below 🙂