So many people fall into the trap of feeling worthless, small and insignificant. And because they believe every lie they hear, either in their minds or from the world around them, they fail to see themselves as the amazing, beautiful and incredibly powerful beings that they truly are.
But not anymore.
Today we will all let go of all this “feeling worthless” nonsense and reclaim our right to feeling worthy and enough.
Here’s how to go from feeling worthy to feeling worthy:
1. Don’t expect the world to validate your worth
We want everyone around us to recognize how precious and valuable we are. But how can other people recognize how valuable you truly are when most of them can’t recognize their own value? And how can this world give you something you yourself feel unworthy of receiving? If you want to go from feeling worthless to feeling worthy, you need to stop expecting the world to validate your worth.
The world is our mirror, it gives back to us what we think, and feel worthy of receiving. And if you want the world to treat you as a worthy and valuable human being, you need to behave as such, and you need to recognize your own value and true worth.
2. You will never find your worth outside of you
Even though we live in a world where we are told that Having and Doing equates to Being – worthy, valuable, enough, etc., that is far from the truth. And if you don’t believe me, just look around you at all the people who Have and Do so much, and still feel like they are never enough.
“If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich..” ~ Lao Tzu
Don’t look for your worth outside of you. Look within, for that is where you will find Everything you need and All that you are.
3. Be careful who you spend your time with
Believe it or not, the people we spend our time with play a huge role in how we perceive and feel about ourselves. And unfortunately, a lot of times, our friends and family, consciously or not, they might feed our doubts and insecurities by treating us as if there’s nothing worthy and valuable in us.
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” ~ Proverbs 13:20
Be careful who you spend your time with. Make sure that the people around you lift you up and not tear you down. Always pay attention to how you feel around people. And no matter what happens, do not let anyone trick you into thinking you are worthless because you’re not!
“If for company you cannot find a wise and prudent friend who leads a good life, then, like a king who leaves behind a conquered kingdom, or like a lone elephant in the elephant forest, you should go your way alone. Better it is to live alone; there is no fellowship with a fool.” ~ Buddha
Don’t believe everything you think especially if your thoughts are meant to feed your doubts and insecurities and strengthen this unhealthy belief that you are worthless and never enough.
You are worthy. You are valuable. You are enough.
Repeat these words to yourself until they become your reality. And know that that is really who you truly are!
5. If you’re feeling worthless, disconnect in order to Reconnect
“Men go abroad to wonder at the heights of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of the rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motions of the stars, and they pass by themselves without wondering..” ~ Saint Augustine
If you are feeling worthless, disconnect for a while from the noise and many demands of this crazy world. Switch off your phone, your laptop, the loud voice of those around you, and just sit. Just be alone with yourself. Allow yourself to reconnect with your true value and worth so that you can know yourself for who you truly are and not for who the world thinks you should be.
6. Tell Yourself what you want to hear from Others
“Words are things, I’m convinced. You must be careful about the words you use or the words you allow to be used in your house.” ~ Maya Angelou
Instead of waiting for the whole world to tell you that you are worthy and valuable, start telling these things to yourself. Start telling yourself the things you deep down know to be true. Tell yourself you are worthy, valuable, beautiful, strong, lovable and enough. Tell yourself everything you need tell yourself and know that your words will reveal their Truth to you.
7. Be kind and gentle with yourself
This world we live in is already so harsh on all of us. There’s no need for you to add more on top of that. Be kind and gentle with yourself and all your so called mistakes and imperfections, and let go of this fearful need for perfection.
“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ~ Brené Brown
What is one thing you could do today to go from feeling worthless to feeling worthy? You can share your comment in the comment section below.