6 Things You Should Forgive Yourself For

“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~ Leo Buscaglia

There are things like these – forgiveness for example, that will make a huge difference in our lives and the lives of those around us, helping us remove many of the blocks that we have hidden deep down in our subconscious mind, blocks that keep us stuck and away from living the life we’ve always dreamed of.

Here are a few things I believe many of us could forgive ourselves for, things we should start working on in order to achieve inner peace and happiness.

6 Things You Should Forgive Yourself For

1. Forgive yourself for not accepting yourself completely. 

You and I both know that there are many people out there who aren’t really happy with who they are and what they are, who always criticize themselves and always compare themselves with others. We will never be happy if we continue living our lives this way, and before we can even consider changing the way we think and the way we perceive ourselves, we need to learn how to forgive ourselves for all the time we spent ignoring our own beauty and our own greatness.

2. Forgive yourself for constantly seeking approval in all the wrong places.

It’s never too late to start seeking for approval in the right place, it’s never too late to start getting approval from the right person, which is YOU! All the approval you will ever need is your own approval and not the approval of those around you. For so many years you have lived your life believing that if THEY like you and if they praise you, you are worthy and if they don’t, well, if they don’t there must be something wrong with you, and maybe you should try even harder to get their attention and validation.

You spent so much time and energy trying to be something you were not, trying to fit in and trying to be like everybody else, you thought that it was the right thing to do but now that you know better, it’s time to forgive yourself.

“Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

3. Forgive yourself for thinking you are not good enough.

Thoughts have creative power. Your beliefs were created based on your thoughts; acting on your beliefs you eventually created your own reality. The life you are now living is the result of all of those thoughts and all the choices you made so far based on your beliefs. Realize this truth, accept it and forgive yourself for those many times when you didn’t consider yourself good enough.

“Compassion, forgiveness, these are the real, ultimate sources of power for peace and success in life.”  ~ Tenzin Gyatso, The 14th Dalai Lama

4. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. 

The past is long gone, you can’t change it, you can’t change what once happened to you. Only by understanding this truth you will be able to release yourself from the prison you’ve locked yourself in. There are no mistakes, there are lessons that life taught you and it’s better to see them as lessons than mistakes in order to be happy with your present life. Forgive yourself for your so called past mistakes, let go in order to be happy, let go and move on.

“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means of correcting our misperceptions.”  ~ Gerald Jampolsky

5. Forgive yourself for all the judgments you’ve placed on yourself and others.

I really love how Mother Teresa of Calcutta spoke about this: “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” Forgive yourself for all the judgments you’ve placed on yourself and others and shift your focus and attention from blame, criticism and direct it towards love and forgiveness, for others and yourself.

6. Forgive yourself for temporarily giving up on your hopes, dreams, and goals.

Decide that it is time to forgive yourself for giving up on your big, bold and beautiful dreams because you see, the irony is that by doing so you will actually allow yourself to start all new and to no longer look for faults in yourself and your past. This will allow you to be fired up with how your future will look like and to actually reclaim your dreams and work on making them become reality.

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ~ C.S. Lewis

~love, Luminita💫

** What is One thing you feel like you need to forgive yourself for? What is one thing that won’t let you be at peace?

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Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita, the Founder of PurposeFairy, is an enthusiastic student of the arts, psychology, and spirituality. Her acclaimed blog post, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy , was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Later on, it became the heart of her book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy., book that was published by Penguin Random House. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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  • Eugene

    19, August 2012 at 10:22 am

    Dana, I love all you posts. Needed to inspire people. It’s ok to love yourself and cherish everything that is you. Keep being awesome!

  • Brittany

    7, June 2012 at 2:08 pm

    This is a great post! I currently am in some sort of rut with a cloud over my head, and this post really answered some of the questions I’ve been having as to why I’ve been feeling this way. thanks for clearing it up! definitely bookmarking this / reposting on my blog (of course shouting out to you :D)!

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    27, May 2012 at 8:58 pm

    So spot on !!.. so many things I look back on and regret.. Lessons.. not mistakes. Lessons well learned , for the are imbedded in my memory. This helps so much… THANK YOU

  • Kelly Origel

    27, May 2012 at 3:35 am

    I just subscribed to you…and thank you for sharing.
    I know what you say is essential to moving forward and on with life..it’s all true. I’m trying to do this with my current situation, my husband, who physically abused me to the point that it cost him his career. We had to leave Hawaii and my son and I cannot attend his own HS graduation ceremony…and I’m alone to start to rebuild (which I am excited about) in a new city without anyone to relate to. Spent close to two hours at the gym this afternoon and still cried my eyes out, flooded with anger and sadness. Is it really possible to forgive something like this? I wonder if I will carry this anger around forever, as it keeps cropping up from time to time.

    • Laurie

      2, June 2012 at 12:47 pm

      My thoughts are with you Kelly as you move forward on this new journey.

    • TYL

      4, October 2012 at 6:08 am

      Kelly, be tough and move on, only time can heal, and it would slowly heal, surely would heal.

  • Ciera Thomas

    26, May 2012 at 4:15 pm

    Great article. I definitely needed these reminders! Thank you.

  • Joelle Morrison

    26, May 2012 at 5:01 am

    The rescue dog I took in after Katrina killed my beloved cat, and I was unable to save her, couldn’t get the dog off her. It was brutal and I might have been able to prevent it if I had been paying attention … the dog broke through a window screen onto the porch where the cat was while I was playing a game on the computer. But without that what-if, I don’t think I can ever forgive myself. The six methods don’t help with this one.

    • tm

      27, May 2012 at 2:37 pm

      It sounds like you are taking responsibility for your cats death. While this had to be traumatic to witness and hard to lose a family member, You didn’t let the dog attack her on purpose. Once you were aware what was going on, you did your best to stop it. It was an accident. You happened to b on the computer, the dog happened to break through the door, the cat happened to be in that room. You didn’t set this up to happen on purpose. Set yourself free. Guilt does not come from God, but the enemy and he wants us to feel worthless and lousy always for everything, b/c then we are powerless. I’m so sorry for your loss and pray in time you will forgive yourself and heal.

    • auriela

      28, May 2012 at 3:45 am

      Dear Joelle,
      Forgiving yourself can be very difficult at times, it is often easier to forgive another than yourself. However, if you want to be free from your pain, forgiving yourself is the ONLY way out. People make mistakes, you made a mistake… feel the sadness, feel the depth of sorrow, don’t judge yourself, you are human, cry the tears that come…but also know this: you will be a richer, deeper , kinder human being if you are able to forgive yourself and allow yourself to be human. No matter what you did. Because if you don’t extent that kindness to yourself it will be difficult to extend it to others. Forgiveness is a choice. Once on the other side, you can be the light for others. If you really want to move through this pain – i have 2 meditations on my website. One of them – forgiving yourself. They are free and people from all over the world have been downloading them and experiencing healing for over 4 years now. There is a lot about forgiveness in The Power of the Possible, the book I wrote. I know the pain of not being able to forgive yourself. Ask for the sorrow to be lifted. If you ask, the answer is always yes. When it comes to sorrow, it is hard to heal it by yourself. if you do these 2 things, i believe you will be able to move through this. All the very best to you. Auriela McCarthy. my website to acess the forgivness meditations is http://www.PowerOfThePossible.com.

  • Nancy

    26, May 2012 at 4:52 am

    Spot on Purpose Fairy once again. I’m learning new things everyday from you. I’m re learning to be me again!

    • danaadmin

      26, May 2012 at 6:26 am

      That is the best thing we can do for ourselves Nancy, to always be true to ourselves 🙂

  • T. AKA Ricky Raw

    25, May 2012 at 7:23 pm

    I was about to type that this came at the perfect time in my life, but then I realized that at every single step of my life, this was the perfect advice I needed. I also wanted to say “better late than never,” but then I realized it’s never too late to get good advice.

    So instead I’ll just say great post as usual.