“Happy couples are the most beautiful couples. They illuminate the world with their love, reminding us of the power of love and the value and importance of surrender, commitment, unity, and oneness.” ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
What is the secret to healthy and long lasting relationships?
What is love?
Does it really exist? And can it really last forever?
Happy couples manage to keep their love flourishing. And they have many powerful lessons to teach us.
13 Powerful Lessons to Learn From Happy Couples
1. Happy Couples Seek to give more than you seek to get.
When they enter into a relationship, they do so because they want to share the best of themselves with the other person, and their main focus is to make the other person happy.
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” ~ Anthony Robbins
2. Happy couples take responsibility for their personal happiness.
These people are already happy – on their own. As a result, their love will last until the end of days. They don’t look for “salvation” when entering a new relationship, but rather they look for ways to make the other person happy, understanding that
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to their own.” ~ Robert Heinlein
3. Happy couples practice awareness.
Awareness of the fact that there will be ups and downs, good days and bad days, and that in order for their relationship (LOVE) to last, they need to invest time and effort in it. You can’t take your hands off the steering wheel and expect to end up in paradise.
4. Happy couples understand the power of commitment.
They are committed “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.” If something is “broken,” they don’t throw it away (and sometimes it is the other person you want to “throw away”), they fix it.
5. Happy couples love without being needy.
Even though it may sound quite frightening, it’s not. You want to be in a relationship with someone who is aware of the fact that they are already whole and complete and they don’t need another human being in order for them to feel this way. Can you imagine all the pressure you put on your partner the moment you say that it’s their job to make you happy, that it’s their job to complete you?
“It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.” ~ Anthony Storr
6. Happy couples practice respect and acceptance.
Respect and acceptance of the differences that exist between them, without trying to constantly change the other person, allowing them to be as they are.
“When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.” ~ John Gray
7. Happy couples practice open communication and trust.
Trust in the other person and in what they can achieve together as a couple and a very healthy way of communicating with one another.
“The fundamental glue that holds any relationship together is trust.” ~ Brian Tracy
8. Happy couples understand the importance of appreciation.
Appreciation of the differences and similarities that exist between them, appreciation of the work each of them does and appreciation of who and what they are.
9. Happy couples work as a team.
A lot of couples after their honeymoon stage start to pull in different directions – acting more like enemies and less like a team. A lot of people do that, but not happy couples.
Happy couples understand that they are moving in the same direction, that they have the same goals and interests, that they are part of the same team. Because of that, their love flourishes from one day to the next.
“I’m here not because I am supposed to be here, or because I’m trapped here, but because I’d rather be with you than anywhere else in the world.” ~ Richard Bach
10. Happy couples understand the value of space.
They understand the importance of having space in their relationship. They know that Eckhart Tolle said it so beautifully, “Space is a unifying field of awareness in which you meet the other person without the separative barriers created by conceptual thinking. And now the other person is no longer ‘other.’ In that space, you are joined together as one awareness, one consciousness.”
11. Happy couples understand the power of self-love and self-improvement.
The people who are in strong, healthy, and long-lasting relationships are aware of the fact that,
“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.” ~ Deepak Chopra
They take the time to work on their own person, they take the time to better themselves because they know that by doing so, their relationship will also improve.
12. Happy couples focus on the good instead of the bad.
They focus on the good traits of the other person and not on the negative ones. They don’t focus on what the other person is not, or on what they think might be missing from their relationship.
These people are mature enough to understand that, just as Wayne Dyer said it,
“Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.”
13. Happy couples practice non-interference.
They allow the other person to be as he/ she wants to be, without trying to control them, without trying to tell them what to think, what to believe, and what to feel.
And these are the 13 powerful lessons to learn from happy couples. I really hope you’ve enjoyed them all.
~love, Luminita 💫