“Narcissism is about dominance, power and control… To the narcissistic person the only point of reference is theirs… ‘How dare you go succeed and be happy? I’m going to wreck this for you’… In a healthy relationship both partners support the success of the other.” ~ Dr Ramani
As human beings, we all long to love and be loved. The need for love is what drives us and makes us want to commit to long term relationships and lifetime marriages. But when this need for love is misused and abused; when those we love the most treat us more like objects and less like human beings, that is when we begin to lose ourselves, our dignity and our faith and trust, not only in love but in relationships and people as well.
We’ve all heard about narcissism, narcissistic people and narcissistic relationships. These words seem to be all over the Internet these days. And I guess that’s because now more than ever people are becoming aware of the fact that they are not alone. And that these things have been happening for a long time to people all over the world. It’s just that we didn’t have a word for it.
Now we do.
The Painful Truth About Narcissistic Relationships
“Your boundaries are never going to work in a narcissistic relationship. Because when you set boundaries you’re exerting an equal amount of power and there’s no room for that in narcissistic relationships.” ~ Dr Ramani
If there is one thing I know for sure is that we are all worthy and deserving of love. We all deserve to be treated with dignity and respect – not only by those around us, but by ourselves as well. And when these needs are not met; when we are put down by the aggressiveness and violent way of being of those we love and trust, our bodies go into shock, and little by little, we give up parts of ourselves just to survive.
When dealing with a narcissistic, it’s important to always remember:
“Don’t go deep. Don’t defend. Don’t engage. Don’t explain and don’t personalize… They are not listening to you. They don’t care what you have to say. They don’t view you as a separate human being with separate needs and wants. They don’t care!” ~ Dr Ramani