“There comes a time in your life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy.” ~ Karl Marx (composer)
I have been in a toxic relationship for almost 10 years and I know how challenging it may be to find the courage and strength to tell yourself: “I’ve had enough. There has to be a better way. I deserve better than this. We both do” and to finally let go of someone you once loved, and maybe still do. But if you do, you will find peace.
You let go of a toxic and unhealthy relationship not because you are weak, not because you no longer love the other person, but because you are strong enough to understand that there are times when two people will be a lot happier if they go separate ways than if they stay together. There comes a time in our lives when we have to do what’s right and to honor not only ourselves but also the people around us.
Remember, it’s the relationship that you are letting go of but not the love you have for the other person. I still care about my ex-boyfriend and I know that I will love him for as long as I live, but that doesn’t mean that we should be together. We tried, it didn’t work and we had to let it go, and I hope you will find the strength and courage to do the same.
Here are 6 reasons why you should let go of a toxic relationship and allow yourself to be happy:
1. Life is too short to be anything but happy
Don’t cling on to unnecessary pain. If it hurts and is a constant struggle… If it’s hard and makes you unhappy, then you need to just let go. Life is too short to be anything but happy.
“One of the simplest ways to stay happy is to just let go of the things that makes you sad.” ~ Nishan Panwar
2. It is better to be alone than in bad company
Don’t you think, not even for a single moment, that it is better to cling on to a toxic and unhappy relationship than to be alone with your own magnificent Self!
There is something so beautiful, so powerful and so unique in each and every one of us and the more we cling on to toxic relationships, the harder it will be for us to tap into our own greatness.
Detach, let go and learn to love yourself for who you are and not for who others want you to be.
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Way too many people cling on to toxic and unhealthy relationships just because they think that without the other person they will be nothing and their life will be worthless. Total nonsense!
I used to think that way as well. I used to believe that if I and my boyfriend broke up, my life would be worthless and that nothing would make sense anymore, but guess what? Ever since I managed to let go, my life became more meaningful than ever and you know why? Because I have learned to love and appreciate myself and to stop looking for my “salvation” somewhere out there, in other people.
Believe me when I say that who you are is more than enough and that you don’t need another person to complete you, but to help you see how beautiful you already are and how much you have to offer.
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” ~ Buddha
4. Holding on to toxic relationships keeps you from growing
Don’t get me wrong, I love challenges and I have this incredible ability to turn every experience, whether good or bad, into a valuable life lesson, but this doesn’t mean that I should make my life harder by clinging on to toxic relationships and drama. I believe that things should flow and they should be easy, and when they aren’t, that means something is wrong.
After being in an unhealthy relationship for almost 10 years, I have learned that if a relationship is hard if it’s stressful, and if it takes a lot of energy and effort to try to make it work, you have to let it go, for the sake of both parties.
I came to the conclusion that if a relationship doesn’t make you a better person if it doesn’t challenge you to grow and evolve into a happier and more loving human being, it is not worth holding on to. If a relationship makes you bitter, but not better, then you are in the wrong one.
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” ~ Robert Tew
5. Face the “ugly truth”
Accept the “ugly truth” – you can’t change the other person, you can only change yourself.
I used to think I could change my boyfriend and my boyfriend believed that he could change me. Guess what? Nobody was able to change anybody and the more we tried to change one another, the more resistant and more resentful we became towards one another.
We got so busy trying to control and change everything that we forgot how to live. We forgot how to love.
“Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Never overestimate your power to change others.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
6. When you let go of a toxic relationship you make room for a healthy one
There is someone out there who is looking for somebody just like you…
By clinging on to something you need to let go of and by staying in a toxic relationship long after you tried everything to make it work, you deny yourself the right to be loved, to be happy and at peace. You deny yourself the right to be with someone who will respect and appreciate you for who you are. You deprive yourself of the gift of love and happiness.
Don’t let that happen to you. Give yourself permission to live life fully. To be free and to experience the many wonderful gifts that come from being in a healthy and loving relationship with someone who doesn’t try to control your every move. Be with someone who allows you to be who you are without trying to change and “correct” you. Life is too short to waste your precious time by clinging on to toxic relationships.
** Why do you think so many of us are afraid of giving up toxic relationships? I would love to know what are your thoughts on this topic and whether this is something you have been experiencing yourself. You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below