Forgiveness: 5 Reasons Why You Should Let Go of Resentments
Forgiveness is the most powerful thing that you can do for your physiology and your spirituality. Yet, it remains one of the least attractive things to us, largely because our egos rule so unequivocally.
To forgive is somehow associated with saying that it is all right, that we accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused the wounds. ~Wayne Dyer
So, why should you let go of resentments? Because:
1. FORGIVENESS IS AN ACT OF STRENGTH
If you are filled with anger and resentment, I am sure that these words would probably seem like nonsense to you. But, as time goes by and the pain diminishes, you will come to the conclusion that you need to be strong enough to forgive because, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Gandhi
2. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO FORGIVE
If you ask me, there isn’t one human being in this world who hasn’t been hurt or injured emotionally by someone they knew and trusted. It’s not that we CAN’T forgive, it’s more that we DON’T WANT to - and that’s okay. There is nothing wrong in this. You can’t really force yourself into doing something that you don’t want to do.
What I personally believe is that, in order to forgive, we need to get a better understanding of why we should do so, and how will this act of forgiving benefit us. So work on identifying the WHY.
By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning. ~Lao Tzu
3. FORGIVENESS IS A GIFT WE GIVE TO OURSELVES
It’s not that you do THEM a favor by letting go of the resentments, by forgiving, because I know that’s exactly what most of us think. Why should I forgive them for what they did to me? No way! I want them to suffer as much as I did!
Of course, we think that they are the ones who are hurting - and maybe they are - but that’s not what matters. What really matters is that you need to allow yourself to receive this gift, and even though this irritating voice inside your head will try to convince you not to do it, you should listen to your own heart.
Deep down inside you know WHY you should let go and how to let go of it all in order to find peace of mind and be happy. Allow yourself to receive this gift, because forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, first and foremost. The moment you tell yourself: I had enough, this pain no longer serves me, that will be the moment you will actually understand WHY forgiveness is power and why you are the first one to benefit from it.
4. YOU WILL FIND PEACE OF MIND
Peace of mind is what you find the moment you let go of any grudges you are holding on to, any resentments and any remorse. That is exactly what you will tune into the moment you let go, the moment you decide to let go and forgive.
The moment you say to yourself: It’s time to forgive! It’s time to forgive all of them and it’s time to forgive myself for not allowing peace to enter into my life earlier. That will be the moment your whole life will change.
“If you let go a little you will have a little peace; if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace; if you let go completely you will have complete peace.” Ajahn Chah
5. WHEN YOU FORGIVE, YOU GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO LIVE LIFE FULLY
Forgive those who have hurt you for they did what they knew best at that moment. How many people do you know that go around with the intention to actually hurt somebody?
The majority of people are doing the best they can with what they know, with where they are and with what they’ve got. Try to see everyone and everything as teachers who come with lessons you need to learn and master. By doing so, you will avoid the risk of becoming bitter and you will become better instead.
We all have a choice - we can chose to either be happy or unhappy. We can choose to hold on to resentments, waste our time and energy and be miserable; or we can choose to let go of everything that no longer serves us and enjoy life. What would you choose? Share your insights by commenting below or by posting on the PurposeFairy Facebook Page. And if you’ve enjoyed reading this post, feel free to share it with your loved ones
With all my love,
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