“Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that’s where I renew my springs that never dry up.” ~ Pearl Buck
You know what I realized? That even though so many people don’t enjoy spending time alone with themselves, and even though so many people are willing to do whatever it takes to avoid solitude, it is in those moments when we are alone with ourselves that we can connect with the deep side of us. It is in those moments of silence and solitude that we can get in touch with that part of us that knows our real worth, the reason of our existence and what we are meant to do in this world.
There’s nothing frightening about spending time alone with yourself, nothing frightening about spending time alone in silence.
There’s nothing frightening about knowing yourself, accepting yourself and loving yourself for who you truly are. Nothing terrifying about taking the time to get curious about your soul’s needs and desires, and about your heart’s dreams, intentions, and aspirations.
Solitude isn’t something that should scare us. On the contrary. Solitude is something that should excite us. Something that should bring joy and exhilaration into our hearts. Because only by spending time alone with ourselves can we discover what’s hidden deep within ourselves. And only by spending time alone in silence can we discover the beauty, the light, the happiness and the unconditional love that’s hidden deep within each and every one of us.
The Beauty of Spending More Time Alone With Yourself
“We live in a very tense society. We are pulled apart… and we all need to learn how to pull ourselves together…. I think that at least part of the answer lies in solitude.” ~ Helen Hayes
We live in a world that teaches us to look for love, for happiness, for approval and validation in all the wrong places. To look for all the things that deep down inside we know we are worthy of having and of receiving, outside of us but rarely or never within ourselves. And because of that, no matter how much we are given, and no matter we gather we never seem to have enough. We always want more, more and more.
Have you ever wondered why is that?
Have you ever wondered why is it that even though we make more money, build bigger houses, surround ourselves with more people and more of everything, we never seem to have enough?
“When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, ‘Oh yes – I already have everything that I really need.” ~ Dalai Lama
What if life wasn’t really meant to be live this way? What if we weren’t meant to waste our entire lives always chasing something or someone?
What if our task here in this world is to love ourselves as much as we want the world to love us. And what if, through our actions and behaviors we are meant to inspire those around us to do the same?
What if you and I aren’t here to get love from one another, but rather to share the love, the beauty, the power and the happiness that is already present within us with one another? And what if you and I always were and always will be, whole and complete, overflowing with love and happiness and all the other things we are desperately seeking outside ourselves?
“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.” ~ Rumi
What if deep down inside, our prior condition is love, light, and happiness? And what if we were never meant to be for all of these things from those around us, by being whatever everyone expected us to be, and by constantly betraying our own soul just so we can get a little bit of love, happiness, approval, and affection?
What if we got it all wrong?
What if life was never about being whatever everyone wanted us to be but rather about being the unique, authentic and precious beings we were born to be? And what if life was never about listening to the loud voice of those around us but rather of listening to the soft, quiet and wise voice that is present within each and every one of us?
“Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path.” ~ Henry Winkler
This is what spending time alone in silence does to you. It quiets the mind and it awakens the heart. It puts all your fears to sleep and it awakens the powerful and magnificent love that is present within you and within all of us.
The Sufi mystic and poet Rumi once said: “Silence is the language of god, all else is a poor translation.” and I have come to realize this to be true.
When you are alone with yourself, alone in silence, you allow yourself to hear God… to know God and to be alone with God. And when you do that, all kind of magical things start to happen and all of a sudden you understand what is meant by these words: “They can’t say, ‘Here it is!’ or ‘There it is!’ You see, the kingdom of God is within you.”” ~ Luke 17:21
It is all within you… love, joy, happiness, abundance, and contentment… it’s all within you, and the more time you spend alone with yourself in silence, the more it will be revealed to you. So take the time to know yourself, to be alone with yourself and to love yourself. Because only by loving yourself will you be able to truly and authentically love those around you.