A study was performed on elderly individuals a few years back. The study showed that there are many people who regret the things they didn’t have the courage to do, but only a few who had regrets about the things that they did.

Taking this study into consideration, let’s assume that tomorrow is the last day of your life. Would you have any regrets regarding the things you did or did not do?

What I want to point out through this mental exercise is that you should review your life in advance — before it’s too late and you start having regrets. If you are not exactly sure how to do that, then here is a list that could help you turn things around so you will live a life free of regrets.

1. Get Your Life on Purpose

First, you will need to understand how important it is for you to get your life on purpose. If you keep putting off all your meaningful plans, if you continue doing things just for the sake of doing them, chances are you will look back on your life with regrets. Stop chasing the wrong things and get your life in order, get your life on purpose.

“When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous.” Wayne Dyer

2. Don’t Waste Time

It’s funny how tomorrow looks better than today when it comes to getting things done. We put off doing those things that are so important for us. We lie to ourselves and say we will do them later … tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Stop fooling around, this is your life you’re playing with, it’s your future and the future of those close to you.

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

3. Let Go of the Victim Mentality

Know that the more time you spend complaining, the more time it will take you to find a solution and get out of the mud. The brain is hardwired to look for trouble in order to protect you from danger, but keep in mind that we are not cavemen anymore.

“You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas.” ~ Shirley Hufstedler

4. Take Advantage – Each Day Offers a New Beginning

It doesn’t really matter where you’ve been, it doesn’t really matter how many mistakes you’ve made and it doesn’t really matter how many times you’ve been rejected and ridiculed in the past. Today is a brand new day and you have another chance, an opportunity to start anew.

“Don’t let a bad day make you feel like you had a bad life.” ~ Unknown

5. Give up Your Excuses

“You already have every characteristic necessary for success if you recognize, claim, develop and use them.” –  Zig Ziglar

There are so many people out there who manage to get past their disabilities and inspire lives. Take Hellen Keller, for example. Yet, there are plenty of people who have no disabilities whatsoever and still find all kinds of excuses not to move forward with their lives, not knowing this will only bring more pain upon them along the way.

Don’t let that be you. Look within and know there is something you can do better than anyone else. Find what that something is and share it with the whole world. That’s where you will find happiness.

6. Let Go of the Need to Compare Yourself to Others

No matter what you do, no matter who you are or where you are, always remember you have your own unique path to walk. Don’t compare yourself, your work or your journey to anyone else, for that will only distract you from your own path, your own journey of self-discovery and self-mastery.

“True nobility isn’t about being better than anyone else; it’s about being better than you used to be.” ~ Wayne Dyer

7. Let Go of Self-Sabotage

Yes, we sabotage ourselves all the time, whether we realize it or not. We say we want something and the moment we feel it coming our way, we get scared, we start sabotaging ourselves in one way or another and this usually happens at the subconscious level.

8. Give up the “what If”

“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”~ Steve Jobs

What if they laugh at me, what if I fail, what if I look stupid, what if, what if… Well, you will never know until you try. Chances are, nothing terrifying will happen to you. If you ask me, there is nothing more terrifying than wasting your life, there is nothing more frightening than getting to the end of your life and realizing you wasted it, the only life that was offered to you.

9. Step out of Your Comfort Zone

Get out of your comfort zone, have the courage to step into the unknown, for that is how you’ll allow your mind to expand, to grow and to create new things. Don’t be afraid to try new things, don’t be afraid to make mistakes and most important, don’t be afraid to learn from these mistakes.

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” ~ Brian Tracy

10. Ask Questions

In order to learn and grow, you will have to ask questions – a lot of questions. No one was born having the answer to everything. It’s okay not to know, so don’t be afraid to ask questions.

“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.” ~ Chinese Proverb

11. Employ Your Time in Improving Yourself by Other Men’s Writings

With the Internet and the many resources we have at hand today, it is quite easy to learn everything we want to learn and even more. You can’t really use your excuses anymore.

Take advantage of all that is being offered to you and promise yourself to: “Employ your time in improving yourself by other men’s writings so that you shall come easily by what others have labored hard for.”~ Socrates

12. Find a Mentor

Find someone who will help you become the person you aspire to be, whether this person is alive or not, whether it’s someone you know personally or not — this will have a huge impact on your life and your journey. I chose Wayne Dyer as my mentor and I only spoke to him once. But, that hasn’t stopped me from being inspired and motivated by him and all of his teachings and to master many of the skills he has.

13. Don’t Give up on Yourself

No matter how hard life may seem and no matter what happens to you, don’t give up on yourself and don’t give up on your dreams. Have faith in yourself and know that, just like Dale Carnegie said: “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”

Which of these 13 things do you find to be most challenging? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 🙂

~love, Luminita💫

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Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita, the Founder of PurposeFairy, is an enthusiastic student of the arts, psychology, and spirituality. Her acclaimed blog post, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy , was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Later on, it became the heart of her book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy., book that was published by Penguin Random House. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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  • Roger The Castle Man

    14, September 2012 at 8:35 am

    There is a saying “20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the thinks you didn’t do than by the things you did do” Reflection is always interesting and there are some great pointers in the article above. Alena, I agree this could have presented in a more positive framework, however, the message is still strong, Roger, we do all have the answers, it does just take courage, and anyway what might happen?…..You just never know.

    Thanks for the post.

  • Sara Siddique

    3, September 2012 at 6:17 am

    Simply awesome. It made my day with all positiveness.

  • Dawn Babcock

    31, August 2012 at 8:49 pm

    Very inspiring

  • Sanchita R

    25, August 2012 at 5:52 pm

    This was an amazing read, especially after I faced a couple of rejections today! I now believe, that I should just keep moving forward and not lose heart! What is meant to happen will happen. I just have to make sure that I have no regrets at the end of it all! Thanks a lot for passing on these beautiful and meaningful thoughts to us! 🙂
    -Sanchita R

  • harika

    11, August 2012 at 10:51 am

    loved it !thanks for sharing.

  • Alena

    6, August 2012 at 4:32 am

    I feel that this would have been much more effective and empowering without all the negative commands in bold. “Don’t do this,” “Stop doing that.” Kinda feels like there’s finger pointing and blame gaming. Blech!

  • Roger L

    5, August 2012 at 9:12 pm

    We all already have the answers. Those answers may scare us, so we don’t listen to them.

  • Pau

    23, July 2012 at 6:54 pm

    I love it. Thanks for share it. Too hard to me to hava purpose. Hope this can help a little bit more..

  • Noha

    11, July 2012 at 10:19 am

    I love it, and the most challenginf thing for me, is having a target, a purpose, well I do have many targets and whenever I feel that my life is going on depending on its routine only, i think again to put purpose in everything, because my religion taught me that I would be rewarded on my deeds and on my purpose behind them as well,. but what scares me is that i dont get to be sure if this is what i really want, or not, this is what irritates me and gets me distracted, am I on the way i want and dream or am i just trying to make the best of where i am, I hope i can solve this dilemma soon:-).

  • Alexander Huynh

    11, July 2012 at 6:38 am

    Love it.

  • Goodkarmagrl

    12, June 2012 at 5:04 pm

    I am one of many who reposted this article on twitter and facebook.
    I keep it by my desk and read it everyday before I delve into work.
    I thank you for posting this and other great articles.
    I too feel a shift and change in the world!
    Spread the word!

  • Sharon

    7, June 2012 at 7:27 am

    I am at the same point in my life, Janina, and can relate. Just need to get over the fear of the unknown and worry about how my desires and actions will affect my family. Wonderful article!

  • Janina

    7, June 2012 at 5:02 am

    For me it is stepping out of my comfort zone. I have been a stay at home mom for 12 years. In my heart I feel it’s time for me to figure out what I want to contribute to the world outside my home. I’m not sure what that is, but I am determined to find out. Thank you for your wise words and encouragement!

  • Doris Rush-Lopez

    6, June 2012 at 6:32 pm

    Item #6 is great, what you can (and should!) compare yourself with is your former self! You should try to make something better about yourself daily, baby steps….if necessary, but some sort of progress!

  • Name (required)

    5, June 2012 at 6:37 pm

    I agree and see that you are saying “younger” age. I have found deep spirituality is something I had to “find” on my own and it took a while. I needed to truly look at what those who were important to me said about how they viewed spirituality and found most felt religion was the same thing! Not necessarily so. With that thought I’ll add – it takes most of us time to grow in wisdom and also in spirituality. It would have been wonderful if I knew what I know at 67 when I was 17, 27 or 37…… just one of the beautiful things about living long enough to grow old.

  • Susan Banks

    4, June 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Excellent article Dana. My biggest fear is living life with regret. I would rather fail over and over again (and I have!) than be on my deathbed saying “if only I had…”.
    Your 13 steps on how to live a life without regret are so true, and how I have been trying to live my life the last few years.

  • MGM

    4, June 2012 at 11:39 am

    Miderator, please strike my previous comment. I misread. Thought she said close friend’s daughter ended her life, not daughter’s close friend.

  • MGM

    4, June 2012 at 11:35 am

    I don’t imagine she’s ready for a list like this yet. Please give her time, as one who’s been there.

  • Morningstar Sun

    3, June 2012 at 7:43 pm

    Even as a septuagenarian this list is immensely important and I love each and every point. Since there’s only this immediate ‘now’ then the next ‘now’ means I can be a changed me in it. In love, light and healing!

  • Edna Richards

    3, June 2012 at 6:46 pm

    It is so easy for me to be get wrapped up in every day tasks that I lose the big picture. I don’t accomplish anything meaningful . Stop wasting time!

  • pam

    3, June 2012 at 5:28 pm

    I agree. You may be at work 40 hours, you may be on the golf course 8 hours however, whom you are spiritually is 24/7.

  • inner-outerbeauty.com

    3, June 2012 at 8:14 am

    Great list! Oh I have been working hard with myself the last decade, I feel that I cover most things on your list and live my life well, but, nr 6, stop comparing yourself to others, are kind of hard for me to let go! I know all about it, but still cannot really stop this bad habit as much as I want to…
    Letting go and not regretting things actually has been proven scientifically to be an anti ager! We have to let go on the inside to look great on the outside as well, it’s all connected. Love Caroline

  • Ann Sparks

    3, June 2012 at 7:02 am

    I think I would have added one.

    Seek a deeply spiritual life at a younger age, because it enables me to seek many other wise attributes.

  • Kelly Davis

    2, June 2012 at 8:15 pm

    I think this article just saved my life! So helpful and eye opening!

  • Judy Cleavenger

    2, June 2012 at 6:03 pm

    Perfectly said! I agree 100%. Excellent philosophy.

  • helaine

    2, June 2012 at 5:31 pm

    wow..powerful stuff….if I can only start with one I will be on my way…
    have a blessed day,you’ll!

  • Lucy DelSarto

    2, June 2012 at 4:03 pm

    As a Wellness Coach and Speaker, I give two ENTHUSIASTIC THUMBS UP on this list. Excellent! My TCOY Philosophy and my business mantra: TCOY = Take Care of You)! If you don’t take care of your body, where will you live?

  • Rhonda Mae Ellis

    2, June 2012 at 3:14 pm

    These are some of the most important words “Purpose Fairy” has ever printed!!!
    oh to live with this as my mantra!

  • Amber

    2, June 2012 at 3:13 pm

    would love to find a living mentor who guide me, but some life coaches are so expensive 🙁 so right now i just got push myself 🙂 thanks for all the tips !!!

  • LaetitiaBotha

    2, June 2012 at 3:06 pm

    One of my daughter’s close friends ended his young life a few days ago. This list is something meaningful that I can pass on to her today. Thank you.

  • Janet

    2, June 2012 at 8:58 am

    All are so very true and inspiring. Thanks for all the great motivation.

  • Kathy Radgian

    2, June 2012 at 5:59 am

    Thanks so much, this is just what I needed to read! You really are a fairy!! Lol!!

  • danaadmin

    2, June 2012 at 5:10 am

    Happy to see this Elvia 🙂

  • elvia

    2, June 2012 at 4:38 am

    Just in time every single time when i need i the most its there thank u

  • Mary Robinson

    2, June 2012 at 3:44 am

    Words to live by.

  • David Hamilton | Everlution

    2, June 2012 at 2:54 am

    Great list, once again PF! I think that self-sabotaging has a lot to do with chasing things in life without a purpose most definitely. Love that quote by Wayne Dyer.