“When you look for encouragement, don’t look for it outside yourself for you will only find it within you. That’s where you will find all the encouragement you will ever need.” ~ Wayne Dyer
I don’t know if you know this or not, but I really admire Wayne Dyer’s work. I believe he is an incredible man who has helped many people from all over the world to see themselves as they are, to see themselves for how great they are, how beautiful, loving, caring, worthy and to see themselves for how powerful and incredible they really are. When you hear somebody like him telling you that you are an incredible person and that there is more to you that you would ever dare to believe, you start wondering and you might even consider questioning your way of thinking, your past beliefs and past limitations.
I started reading his books a year ago I believe, and back then I was really into NLP among many others, and I was looking for all the books that were on the subject. I have found one of his many books “How to be an NLP” and I thought NLP comes from neuro-linguistic programming and I got the book and although NLP was a shortcut from No Limit Person, not Neuro Linguistic Programming like I thought, I loved it so much that I started reading all the books I could find from him and I can tell you that I felt in love. I love to read and I read a lot, but I can tell you that nobody got my attention like he did. Of course, I have encountered many other great books, great authors, but none like him. It was a perfect fit. It was like something inside me was looking for this all along.
This is just an introduction for you to understand how it all started and how his work over the years has changed me.
Monday, February 28/ 2011 I had the privilege to talk to him over the phone, thanks to his radio show Excuses Begone on Hay House. It was such an honor for me to talk to him and I can tell you that I felt like nothing could ever touch me after I have finished talking with him. He has such a soothing and comforting voice and I could feel how peaceful he really is.
I have changed so much over the years but I can tell you that in the past year a major shift took place. It’s nothing on the outside, although I have heard a few people telling me that also, but on the inside. I am no longer the person I was before and I am so amazed. I can do things that I had no idea I was capable of doing. I love the new me for it wants to grow, it wants to explore and it wants to discover why is she here, and also because she now thinks more about others than she things about herself and because she really wants to make a difference in the world, and deep down inside she knows she will eventually do it… if she chooses not to allow the noise of other’s opinions to drown out her inner voice and if she chooses to follow her heart and intuition.
I just love the new me. The new me is more secure, confident and no longer needs the approval of those around her to feel good about herself, to feel validated. Even though I enjoy and I am so grateful for the shift that took place in my lift, for this shift in consciousness, I do feel lost from time to time and I do feel alone, but I guess it’s just like Wayne says, It’s never crowded along the extra mile. He would know…
I do not feel lonely, but alone and when that happens I wish I had more people that would support me, that will encourage me, and that was one of the reasons I wanted to talk to Wayne. I have watched him evolved, I have read almost all of his books, I have seen many of his interviews, I have seen The Shift and I have noticed that as years went by for him, he became more enlighten and detached from the world around him, like nothing and no one could ever touch him, so peaceful and serene, tolerant, kindhearted and you could see, you could feel the love within him, for himself and for the whole world. How precious is that? I guess that’s exactly what Lao Tzu was talking about 2500 years ago:
“If you don’t realize the source, you stumble in confusion and sorrow. When you realize where you come from, you naturally become tolerant, disinterested, amused, kindhearted as a grandmother, dignified as a king.”
He is one man who surely walks the talk and I would say that he is, in what Carl Jung called, the fourth stage of our life, The Spiritual Stage. He is in this world but not of it, so peaceful and serene, so kind and loving toward everything and everyone. He observes everything that happens around him, he is an observer of the world and he knows that he is not his name, he is not his work, he is not what he does, but more than that, and just like he said it so many time, he is a spiritual being having a human experience and not the other way around.
And as we were talking, and as I was telling him how I sometimes feel like I don’t belong, and that I am, and I would like to quote Einstein here
“I am truly a ‘lone traveler’ and have never belonged to my country, my home, my friends, or even my immediate family, with my whole heart; in the face of all these ties, I have never lost a sense of distance and a need for solitude…”
I was telling him how I feel different from those around me, and maybe sometimes misunderstood. That there are times when I need encouragement from those around me but I don’t always find it, and I can tell you that his answer made me see things totally different and embrace who I am:
“You know, I identify with you very much so. I don’t feel like I’m understood a lot by other people but one of the things I have learned as a young man was to be independent of that opinion, to not be concerned with whether I’m understood or not. I don’t have to be understood.” Wayne Dyer
I believe there are many people who, because they are afraid that others might see them as being weird, afraid that they might be misunderstood, choose to wear all kind of masks and pretend that they are something else, something that they are not. I would say that many of us are betraying themselves in order to make other people like them. This fear of what others might think of us, and what labels they might put on us, prevent us from being true to ourselves. I used to do that. I thought I had to be a certain way in order for people to be O.K. with who I am, in order for them to like me, even if that meant to be something that I wasn’t and now I just don’t do it, at least not that often, but I am getting better at it.
The fear of the unknown ruled the old me for many years but as I shifted, the fear disappeared. I am not telling that it’s all gone for that will be a lie and I don’t want you to think that. I still have fears, doubts, and worries about what may happen and if what I’m doing it’s what I’m supposed to be doing, and even though I already know the answer to me, because I can feel it, I feel something that I have never felt before, even though I know I have all the answers to my questions, I still choose to worry and I still choose to doubt and to fear from time to time. I still choose to ask for other’s opinion, even though they might not have the answers I need, and by doing that, I choose to go back to who I was before, to that old me that no longer exists, who is only a memory now, and by doing that, I start doubting myself again… Lucky for me, that doesn’t take too long and I have noticed that I always go back to my natural state. I go back to feeling secure, safe and powerful.
This is who I am right now, and I can tell you that every day in every way I I am getting better and better, and I want to do help others do the same. I want to help as many people as possible and make them see themselves for who and what they really are, to see the real beauty that lies within each and every one of us and to unleash the great potential that lies in us all.
We are so busy looking for ourselves out there, we are so busy looking for whatever it is we want to find, and many of us loose themselves this way, many of us come to believe that who they are is what other people want them to be. Who they are is what other people tell them to be, not knowing that they are none of that. I am so awake right now and I plan to stay this way and I plan to wake up as many people as possible. No more excuses, no more fearing the unknown, no more crying, no more whining etc. To quote Wayne’s book: Excuses Begone!