Through his work, Dale Carnegie has inspired and empowered millions of people from all over the world, me including. And today I would like to share with you some of his most inspiring quotes, compiled into 35 life-changing lessons to learn from this incredible man.
35 Life Changing Lessons to Learn from Dale Carnegie
“Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance, and kindness.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“To know all is to forgive all.”
2. If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work.
“If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work in the world has been done against seeming impossibilities.” ~ Dale Carnegie
3. Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
“Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn’t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn’t most of them turn out all right after all?” ~ Dale Carnegie
“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.” ~ Dale Carnegie
5. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping-stones to success.
“Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” ~ Dale Carnegie
6. Don’t be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs.
“Don’t be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.” ~ Dale Carnegie
9. The expression you wear on your face is far more important than the clothes on your back.
“The expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.” ~ Dale Carnegie
11. No matter what happens, always be yourself.
“No matter what happens, always be yourself.” ~ Dale Carnegie
12. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.
“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
14. The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to do great work today.
“…the best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm, on doing today’s work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation, for your character is what you are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“Two men looked out from prison bars, One saw the mud, the other saw stars.” ~ Dale Carnegie
18. Life is too short to be little.
“Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember “Life is too short to be little”.” ~ Dale Carnegie
19. There’s a big difference between appreciation and flattery.
“The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.” ~ Dale Carnegie
20. Don’t talk about what you want, but rather about what the world wants.
Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“A good deed, “said the prophet Mohammed, “is one that brings a smile of joy to the face of another.” Why will doing a good deed every day produce such astounding efforts on the doer? Because trying to please others will cause us to stop thinking of ourselves: the very thing that produces worry and fear and melancholia.” ~ Dale Carnegie
22. Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.
“Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.” ~ Dale Carnegie
23. Never waste a minute thinking about people you don’t like.
“Let’s never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let’s do as General Eisenhower does: let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listener – a listener who will be silent while the irate fault-finder dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system.”
26. Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn, and most fools do.
“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” ~ Dale Carnegie
27. Get interested in people and people will get interested in you.
“Personally I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn’t bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper in front of the fish and said: “Wouldn’t you like to have that?” Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?”
“Talk to someone about themselves and they’ll listen for hours.”
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” ~ Dale Carnegie
28. When fate hands you a lemon, make lemonade.
“When fate hands you a lemon, make lemonade.” ~ Dale Carnegie
“When I asked him -Mr.Henry Ford- if he ever worried, he replied: “No. I believe God is managing affairs and that He doesn’t need any advice from me. With God in charge, I believe that every-thing will work out for the best in the end. So what is there to worry about?” ~ Dale Carnegie
30. As you think so shall you be.
“Our thoughts make us what we are.” ~ Dale Carnegie
31. Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so.
“Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so.” ~ Dale Carnegie
32. Judge not.
“Even God doesn’t propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?” ~ Dale Carnegie
33. To be interesting, be interested.
“To be interesting, be interested.” ~ Dale Carnegie
34. Work on becoming who you want to be.
“If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically engaged in becoming the person you don’t want to be. ” ~ Dale Carnegie
“You are going to survive. And good things are going to start to happen again. And one day you are going to look back and this will not even be such a bad thing” ~ Dale Carnegie
BONUS: Extra Dale Carnegie Quotes
“Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.”
“Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.”
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”