“Dreams are the touchstones of our characters.” ― Henry David Thoreau
Somebody asked me recently what do I think about the many people out there who are seen as failures, who are in fact failures…
The definition of failure can be different from one person to another and I believe that there are those people who are in fact being very patient and working on themselves and on achieving their dreams, but they do it very silently, and these people even though it may look to some of us that they are just that, they are not.
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race ” ~ Calvin Coolidge
Be aware of your judgments for you never how things will turn out in the end and how they will eventually show us that they aren’t failures after all, and I tell you this from my own experience, I have seen this happening so many times.
Of course, on the other hand, there are those people who are constantly assuring us through their actions, behaviors and their own words, that they are failures. I know somebody who calls herself a failure, and every time we meet she reminds me of who she is, in case I forgot.
These people are doing nothing, nothing at all in order to get their lives moving in a new direction, a direction that is not destructive to them or to those around them. These people simply can’t, and won’t get out of their comfort zone, choosing to procrastinate all day, every day.
Why You Should Never Give Up On Your Dreams
I really can’t understand why that is, but what really goes through their mind on daily bases. I ask myself many times, do they ever wonder if there is more to life? Do they ever ask themselves how would it be if they will start moving if they would start doing something, anything?
Have they ever had dreams of being more, have they ever had dreams of achieving bigger things, bigger than anyone could ever think possible?
I don’t know… I guess they are the only ones who have the answers to these questions.
I really believe that we humans are sometimes a bit too lazy. We like to do those things that are fun and easy, tension-relieving rather than gold achieving. We want to get everything done fast and we also want to get great results if possible. We will look for ways to do those things that are familiar to us, those things that are fun and easy rather than hard and difficult, and most of the time necessary.
How can anybody ever become more than already is, if they are always hiding, always running away from taking responsibilities, running away from life? It’s unbelievable how easy we can form new and destructive habits, habits that are known to be bad for us, for our health, and a lot of times for those we care about also.
When it comes to forming new positive habits that might take us a longer period of time, and maybe some extra effort (habits that will benefit us in the long run) we run like a scared cat. We try to stay away as much as possible from these types of situations, for they are making us feel uncomfortable, and who would want that?
Yes, I guess it’s a lot better to only do those things that are easy, only those things that feel food, only those things that are fun. Yes, why not? And we’ll just see what the future brings, maybe we will get lucky and we will manage to cheat life a little bit more.
Yes, that might work, why not? It’s not like we have anything to lose, except our own time, our own life, our own happiness. Only they are the ones to be wasted, that’s all. As time goes by and we will start looking back to our life, we will see the big nothing we have achieved, and how proud will that make us feel…
Never Give Up On Your Dreams
I guess it wasn’t life that we were cheated, after all, we’re only cheating ourselves. If only somebody would have told us that… But wait, they did, in fact, a lot of people tried to tell us just that, a lot of people tried to help us, our friends, our family, but we were too busy watching television, too busy drinking and partying, too busy obsessing over our-our pretty face, too busy looking for people to give us their attention, their love, their time that we completely forgot about ourselves and our need for improvement.
Yes, another sad story, another person who wasted their life, but what else is new? It’s not like this is the first or the last person to do just that. And you know what’s really interesting? If you ask them how did that ever happened, they will come with a very long list of excuses, and they will make you believe that the whole world was against them, in fact, the entire Universe.
You know, they weren’t born under a lucky start like others, their parents weren’t the Rockefellers, they didn’t have the IQ of Marilyn Vos Savant and the list could go on. Or maybe they will tell you how their looks, their weight or their height didn’t quite help them, and because of that they become very depressed and could not focus on anything else but on that which was lacking.
You see, it’s not that easy to get yourself motivated, in fact, it is something quite difficult. And now that you know all of these things, maybe you should feel bad that you dared to judge them, or maybe it wasn’t really judgment but only curiosity, but that’s not really important, start feeling bad, now!
Yes, all of these people, if they could do a career out of whining and making excuses, we will have such a prosperous planet, in fact, we will never have a recession ever again. Although it may sound a little bit funny, we all know it’s not; in fact, it’s a tragedy, for there are so many people like that in the world.
We all have something that makes us unique, and we all have special talents, talents that may be different from those of the people around us, and if we continue comparing ourselves to others and if we continue focusing our attention on all of those things that are missing, all that we will ever have is more and more of that. Where focus goes energy flows, always remember that.
The moment we think we don’t have enough, the moment we think there is something lacking, we are in fact thinking from a place of scarcity, and we are telling ourselves that there isn’t enough to go around, and by doing that we are in fact storing all of this information in our subconscious mind, and if you take into consideration that 95% our life is controlled by our subconscious mind, while and only 5% by our conscious mind, then you will understand why your life is only a reflection of your limiting beliefs, beliefs that you are storing on a daily bases in your subconscious.
We can’t all have parents that are billionaires, we can’t all study at Harvard, we can’t all have the look of a supermodel, but that doesn’t mean our lives can’t be shaped the way we please, and this can only happen if we’ll work on taking the necessary action steps in that direction.
I get motivated and inspired by people like Edison for example, like Lincoln, people who never stopped trying, who never stopped dreaming, they never stopped believing, even if the whole world saw them as failures maybe, but they kept themselves focused and eventually achieved their dreams.
I strongly believe that if you want something, and if you believe in yourself, if you work for it and if you don’t quit, whenever things don’t go as planned, you will eventually achieve whatever it is you are trying to achieve. I have a very skeptical friend with whom I share my stories, stories about my passion, my dreams, about the people that inspire me, and I remember one time he told me something like:
Come on, they are only a few, how many people like that do you really know? (He was referring to Lincoln this time) They were just lucky.
And he is right, but not entirely.
There are very few people like that, and you know why? Because people like them never stop believing, never stop trying. These people don’t see their mistakes, their failures as failures, but rather as lessons, as opportunities to grow, lessons to be mastered, as experiences that are part of their lives.
How many people like that do you know? How many people do you know that are willing to take this chance? Not too many, I tell you. This is why we don’t hear many stories like theirs, for we choose to stop the very moment we are facing difficulty.
Let me give you a very simple example. Let’s say I want to get from my house to that of a friend of mine, and I choose to get there by foot. He lives a one-mile distance from where I live and I start walking, I take on the step, and then another, and another, and another, and eventually I get so frustrated for not being there already that I decide to give up and go back home. Am I crazy for thinking like that? Of course, I am! I am insane!
But isn’t that what most of us do? We say we want to change the world, we say we want to achieve great things but whenever we are facing a difficult situation, a challenge or maybe a failure, we get discouraged and most of us quit. We never stop and think that maybe it’s more about the journey and less about the destination.
“If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, keep moving.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
We need to learn how to become more patient and we need to learn how to enjoy every single moment of our journey. This is the only way we can stick to our goals and dreams. We need to learn how to become more patient and become aware of the fact that patience means waiting.
Not passively waiting which is nothing more than laziness, but to keep going when the going gets hard and slow.
We all can achieve great things, but we can only do that if we commit to our goals, our dreams, and expectations, and by learning to see our mistakes not as mistakes but as opportunities to grow, as lessons that need to mastered.
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.” ~ Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
Give up your personal history, give up your past beliefs about what you can and can’t do, and know that each day is a new chance for us to start again, a new day for us to make new choices, learn new things, meet new people and improve ourselves