“Building shame resilience is about reaching out to others and building a connection. When we do this with people in our support systems, we often develop relationships that are built on a foundation of empathy. This is incredibly important because, based on this research, I found that the opposite of experiencing shame is experiencing empathy. When we tell our stories or share an experience with someone and they respond with empathy, most of our shame loses its power.” ~ Brené Brown
A lot of people are used to hiding a lot of things that are dark and painful from themselves and from the rest of the world because of shame. And in this process of hiding everything that’s not colorful and “perfect”, not only do they end up hiding from themselves, but they also keep their wounds from healing.
“Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” ~ Brené Brown
In this short yet powerful video, shame and vulnerability researcher Dr. Brené Brown, reveals the three things shame requires to grow—and why shame cannot survive empathy.
Brené Brown Speaks on Why Shame Cannot Survive Empathy