Never underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others. ~Wayne W. Dyer
How many of our inner conflicts start from this constant need to seek approval from those around us? It seems that us humans have this sick need to constantly please others and often times we betray and ignore our own thoughts, our own feelings, our own SELVES just so that we can feel validated and accepted by THEM.
Is this how life should be lived is this how real and long lasting happiness can really be achieved? We are so concerned with how people perceive us and we are so worried that they might not like us if we start acting in a way that feels best to us that we prefer to ignore our own thoughts, our true inner feelings, and emotions. We start doing what we know it’s expected from us to do and act in ways we know THEY expect us to act.
Is Approval Seeking Really a Good Idea
Knowing that we only have one life to live, is this really necessary? Wouldn’t it be wiser for us all to start acting according to our own beliefs and start being true to ourselves once and for all? Isn’t this the best way to really achieve INNER PEACE and HAPPINESS?
I can’t make you HAPPY and you can’t make me HAPPY unless I am already HAPPY and at PEACE with who I am deep down inside and the same applies to us all. Maybe it is time for us to become more responsible and to take a good look at ourselves in the mirror and really ask ourselves who we are and if this is how we want to continue our lives.
We can’t control others and others can’t really control us and at first sight this may seem far from the truth but if you really go deep into it, you will discover that you really can’t control anyone, you can only control yourself, your own thoughts, your own feelings and behaviors and your own life and reality.
Of course, you can’t control other people. Not even a little; not a smidge. Every man and woman is their own sailing vessel powered by their own thoughts, emotions, and imagination. You can’t improve their smile, nor even add to their woes, unless, at some level, they let you. So, does that pretty much clear up the effect others can have on you? ~ The Universe (Mike Dooley)
Put your needs first, nurture and take good care of your SELF. Honor your true feelings and no matter what happens, don’t compromise. Be who you are and know that the world needs people who are BRAVE enough to remove all their masks and be an example for us all. You can’t really control how others might feel about you being YOU but you can definitely control how you YOURSELF feel your own actions and behaviors. Choose to stay true to yourself and know that,
People who want the most approval get the least and people who need approval the least get the most. ~Wayne Dyer
at 11:01 pm
I do believe we can control other people somewhat, some by manipulation, some by rewards, and yes ultimately people make their own choices in life. But kids are more easily controlled to be “normal” and made to feel bad when parents are controlling and self centered. When you were raised like that, it is difficult to recover and get out of that and find yourself.
at 3:15 pm
Only one thing I don’t agree with “we only have one life to live.” I believe we keep coming back until we get it right. That doesn’t mean I don’t want to get it right this time.
at 4:31 am
Thanks for the great article – just what I need to reinforce to myself! And I absolutely love the Wayne Dyer quote at the end. (:
at 3:44 pm
I love how I always seem to hear or read exactly what I need to exactly WHEN I need to.
Thank you for this and so many of your posts. <3
at 3:28 pm
Yes, that IS true. We can make ourselves happy by enjoying what we have at the moment and appreciating what we have. No need to worry what
Others think if we KNOW it’s right.