What if you woke up one day and decided that you were tired of feeling tired and that you had enough of everything – enough of stress and anxiety; enough of lack, pain, and poverty; and enough of tears, heartbreaks, self-destructive thoughts, behaviors, and relationships?
Well, if you’re tired of feeling tired and you are serious about rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing, these 12 steps will help you achieve just that.
How to Begin Rebuilding Your Life and Make It Ridiculously Amazing
1. Make a commitment to yourself
To spend so much time improving YOURSELF and your life that YOU have no time TO worry, judge, blame, criticize, and complain;
Make a commitment to yourself to forgive, release and let go of all your attachments to any past struggles, and allow every challenge life sends your way to make you better, not bitter;
Make a commitment to yourself to let go of all the pointless drama, all the toxic relationships, thoughts, and behaviors that are present in YOUR life and shift your focus from the bad on to the good;
Make room in your heart for love, joy, peace, and tranquility, and seek to create your life from a place of infinite choices and possibilities – which is the present moment, and no longer from a place of limitations – the past.
Commit yourself to stay true to yourself at all times and never betray yourself just so you can please those around you.
Let go of what’s behind YOU and start appreciating what’s RIGHT in front of YOU.
And know that once you truly commit to owning your power and changing your life, nothing and no one will be able to stand in your way.
2. Forgive, release, and let go of past hurts and resentments
Fill your heart with love.
Forgive, release and let go. Not necessary because those who mistreated you deserve it, but because you do. Let forgiveness liberate you from your past. Allow it to take away all the resentment you have kept in your heart for all this time and allow yourself to fill that empty space with love, inner peace, and compassion.
If others mistreated you in the past it doesn’t mean you have to continue their work. Look how beautiful Mark Twain talks about this:
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” ~ Mark Twain
Step by step, release and let go of all the negativity present in your life. And trust that as you work on letting go of all the extra baggage that is weighing you down, you will begin to feel lighter and you will have a lot more energy to spend on rebuilding your life and making it ridiculously amazing. Plus, you will feel happier and more at peace with yourself and the world around you.
3. Embrace with grace all that you face
Shift your focus from the bad on to the good; from the pain on to the gain; from resentment on to forgiveness, gratitude, and appreciation.
Appreciate everything life sends your way – no matter if good, or bad, and know that just as Melody Beattie said it, “gratitude will help make sense of your past, will bring peace to your present life, and it will help create a clearer vision for your future.”
4. Visualize your achievements and create your destiny
Ask yourself the same question I asked myself many years ago when I decided to let go of my attachments to my past and start rebuilding my whole life:
“If there were no limits to what I can be, do, and have, how would my life look like?
If there were no limits to what YOU could Be, Do, and Have, how would your life look like?
How would you feel?
Where would you live?
What would you do?
What kind of people WOULD you have around you?“
Dare to ask yourself these kinds of questions. Dare to dream big. The richer your imagination, the more beautiful your life will be.
“The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of the tools they use is visualization or mental imagery… they made the choice to create their destinies and visualized their achievements before they ultimately succeeded.” ~ George Kohlrieser
See in your mind’s eye your dream life. Dare to feel the feelings that come from living this kind of life. And allow these feelings to be with you at all times. Follow the advice of the brilliant Neville Goddard, and choose to:
“Disregard appearances, conditions, in fact all evidence of your senses that deny the fulfillment of your desire. Rest in the assumption that you are already what you want to be, for in that determined assumption you and your Infinite Being are merged in creative unity, and with your Infinite Being all things are possible.” ~ Neville Goddard
Live your life from the end and act as if all of the things you need and desire are already present in your life. By doing so, you will open yourself up to the right people, ideas, places, and experiences that will help you turn your dreams into a reality.
5. Dreams won’t work unless you do
Act upon your heart’s desire. Do the things you need to do in order to get where you want to get.
Read the books you need to read, contact the people you need to contact and build the skills you need to build.
Find a mentor.
Do whatever it takes to move closer to making your dreams come true.
Trust that with every step you take, your life situation will improve and you will slowly but surely begin rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing life.
There is no need to rush. No need to hurry. And no need to struggle to make things happen.
“Rushing into action, you fail. Trying to grasp things, you lose them. Forcing a project to completion, you ruin what was almost ripe. Therefore the Master takes action by letting things take their course. He remains as calm at the end as at the beginning.” ~ Lao Tzu
Just take one step at a time.
Be patient and gentle with yourself while working on rebuilding your life, and remind yourself as often as possible to enjoy the journey as much as you possibly can.
“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” ~ Matthew 17:20
Put your fears aside and dare to trust.
Trust yourself. Trust your Inner Being. Trust that you are not alone. Trust the people around you. Trust that you will be guided. Trust the natural flow of Life. And trust that whatever you need, Life will supply. Because it will.
8. Give yourself permission to ‘fail’
As you walk on this new path, chances are that you will fall down. Chances are that you will fail and make mistakes.
And that’s okay.
Allow yourself to make mistakes, to embrace your humanity. And do your best to learn from everything life sends your way.
Know that in every ‘mistake’ there is a lesson to learn and that each lesson will be beneficial to you as you continue walking on this new chosen path.
“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.” ~ Richard Bach
Take good care of your mind, body, heart, and soul.
Nurture good thoughts. Eat healthy and nutritious foods. Keep your body moving.
Spend time alone in silence(spending at least 5 to 10 minutes per day in silence will help you connect at a deeper level with the Truth of who you are, and it will also help you understand more about yourself and your purpose in life.)
Act in compassionate and loving ways – towards yourself and the world around you. Go outside.
Spend time in nature – look at the plants, the sky, the stars, the moon, and the trees.
Celebrate the beauty that surrounds you. Celebrate the miracle of life. And celebrate the beauty and miracle that you yourself are!
“The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that position.” ~ Leo Buscaglia
Get into the habit of asking yourself:
Who am I?
What are the things that truly matter to me?
What do I value?
What do I stand for?
Am I living in Truth and integrity?
Are other people’s opinions of myself more important than my own opinion of myself?
And if so, what can I do to change this?
Get clear on who are and what you stand for. Hold your ground.
Do the things that have meaning for you. Live your life Your way. And as much as you possibly can, seek to live in alignment with who YOU are, and NOT in alignment with who everyone around you wants you to be.
11. Discipline your mind to stay present in the NOW
Don’t let your mind trick you into thinking you won’t be happy until you get where you want to get. Learn to be happy here and now.
Appreciate what’s in front of you.
Be happy with what you now have, what you now know, and who you are right in this moment.
Learn to honor the sacredness of the present moment. And know that by doing so, not only will you experience the incredible peace and serenity the present moment has to offer you, but you will also spare yourself of all the unnecessary stress, pain, struggle, and unhappiness that comes from resisting the present moment.
“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolves, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
12. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people
As you begin rebuilding your life, chances are that you will have many moments when you will feel alone, misunderstood and isolated; moments when there’s not going to be too many people around you to encourage and cheer for you. And when that happens, I want you to remember that that’s perfectly normal.
The majority of people are way too comfortable being comfortable to embrace change and step into the unknown, let alone encourage others to embark on new adventures.
But this is your Hero’s Journey and even though your current friends and family might not always understand what you’re going through or where you’re headed, you will eventually encounter wonderful new friends and allies who will. And when that happens, you will realize that it was all worth the wait.
You will eventually encounter wonderful new friends and allies who will.
So don’t lose hope. Because at the right time, you will find those positive, cheerful, supportive, and loving people who will lift you up when you are feeling down; who will turn on the light for you when you are in the dark; and who will inspire you to do better, and be better.
~love, Luminita 💫
What about you? What is the first step YOU can you take today to start rebuilding your life and make it ridiculously amazing? I really want to know what are your thoughts on this. You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below