Have the Courage to Walk Alone

“The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.” ~ Albert Einstein

This is one of my very favorite quotes. It celebrates individuality and embraces the idea that in order to live, we must not follow, but lead ourselves.

So often we all fall into the assumptions life should be lived according to what our religions, traditions or learned moral values teach us. The comfort of knowing what is expected drives most to live a predictable life. We all get into a routine and when we begin to wonder where life went, we are old and gray, regretting all the things we did not do. Many of us daydream about things we are only brave enough to do in our imagination and when it comes to taking that first step to putting that dream to work, we doubt ourselves.

We doubt because we allow fear to question our commitment to the crowd; we allow fear to convince us we will be scolded and shunned for taking that first step to walk alone; we assume traditions and moral values are beliefs which cannot be bent or edited to become our own version.

Have the Courage to Walk Alone

When you are struggling with taking that first step to walk alone, ask yourself if that step is done for LOVE. LOVE for yourself and LOVE for LIFE. Often times we allow ourselves to stay stuck in a bad, miserable or unhealthy situation because we are afraid of the backlash we may get from the crowd if we decide to leave. If you live your LIFE with LOVE as your main driver, you will only reciprocate that energy and more will come right back to you.

“There are old heads in the world who cannot help me by their example or advice to live worthily and satisfactorily to myself, but I believe that it is in my power to elevate myself this very hour above the common level of my life.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

In a crowd, people are like each other and strive to be so. Walking alone, your example is yourself. You learn to be better than you were yesterday and realize dictating your own life is more beneficial than using someone else as your example to be like. Many influential people in the world walked alone, they realized their potential was only limited when they compared themselves to someone else.

“It’s not what you are that holds you back, It’s what you think you’re not.” ~ Denis Waitley

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Thenille Marques

Thenille Marques is an inspiring author working on writing a book of inspirational life lessons. Her writings are inspired by personal experiences and by her continued desire to learn more about life and people.Thenille’s greatest loves is her family.

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    heba

    22, September 2012 at 1:04 pm

    Really thank you ..through my hall life I always put other first and then my self .. until the past few weeks I discovered how wrong that was some how I lost my self don’t know who am I any more ..I am sure reading this is going to help me to re-find my self and love my self a gain I know its not easy but I will have the power to do it by God in my side I will take the walk by my self …..

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    Heidi

    17, August 2012 at 7:18 pm

    Oh Purpose Fairy, I love you soo…..

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    KC

    12, August 2012 at 2:00 am

    The thing I love about this post is that it spans across so many facets in life. Relationships, career, etc – no matter what the situation is, this post reminds us to have the courage to believe in ourselves and embrace our potential. Simply beautiful.

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    Thenille Marques

    7, August 2012 at 1:11 pm

    Hello everyone,
    It makes me so very happy to know many of you related to this post. Purpose Fairy has brought so much enlightenment into my life and I wanted to pay it forward. Although I have the courage to walk alone, it is even more inspiring to know so many of you do as well.

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    CARMEN

    7, August 2012 at 7:13 am

    I am in awkward situation now but this article gave me affirmation as to what I need to do for myself
    Walk your own path even if it does not conform to social norm
    Anyway who is to define social norm ? Majority does not always get it right
    If I am not doing harm to anyone then it is alright to walk your own path

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    Ruby H Rose

    6, August 2012 at 4:20 pm

    Walking alone gets us in touch with the spirituality that we never walk alone, really.
    I enjoy it early in the morning and late at night.
    In between, my dog insists on going with me.

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    Alanna Jane

    6, August 2012 at 7:10 am

    Amazing article, and a perfectly timed reminder. Thank you for spreading the love Thenille Marques.

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    Michelle Coletta Ybarra

    5, August 2012 at 8:15 pm

    Wow , I needed to hear that i once along time ago was so independent and did exactly that walked alone and in doing so achieved so much . Through the years and over ten years of marraige and alot of heartache loss pain hurt and mental physical verbal abuse and more i had lost that part of me until here recently i have become strong again , and confident within myself and have said this very same thing and that I am ready to walk alone and get bac to my journey of me , Yes Iam scared to do so for along time everyone on the outside looking in told me what i did not want to see or believe but through the birth of my son and overcoming many issues from my past i have decided that i must do this for my self and the love and respect i have for me . i am glad i subscribed to this its like yall read my mind at times thank you .

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      Christina G.

      16, August 2012 at 7:09 pm

      “become strong again” Not just this article BUT your reply struck me on a personal note. Thank You.

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    ANDY

    4, August 2012 at 8:09 pm

    Spiritually enriching piece crafted out of experience, not erudition. Many will read it and get better. I am happy for this.

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    Aida Santana

    4, August 2012 at 6:20 pm

    Wow! This article spoke to me in a very profound way. Walking alone is always likened by people as someone being a snoot. Society expects you to follow the crowd and when you don’t you are the outcast. I have always felt sure about myself in that I have a set of standards and goals which I do not allow anyone to tamper with. Don’t get me wrong, I am a team player as well as a collaborator but in the work place I have been known to disassociate myself from bad or negative company even if it means only having limited friends.

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      Aida Santana

      4, August 2012 at 6:42 pm


      Aida Santana:

      Wow! This article spoke to me in a very profound way. Walking alone is always likened by people as someone being a snoot. Society expects you to follow the crowd and when you don’t you are the outcast. I have always felt sure about myself in that I have a set of standards and goals which I do not allow anyone to tamper with. Don’t get me wrong, I am a team player as well as a collaborator but in the work place I have been known to disassociate myself from bad or negative company even if it means only having limited friends.

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    KEVIN GARDNER

    4, August 2012 at 4:39 pm

    Whenever I seek a private path, the journey is sweeter and the view is infinite…

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    lucy delsarto

    4, August 2012 at 3:55 pm

    You’re singing my song…right on target! Great post, I’ll pay it forward so others may benefit from reading it too. TCOY! (TCOY = Take Care of YOU))

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    Cindy

    4, August 2012 at 3:54 pm

    Thanks for the encouragement!

    I’m walking alone now. My husband passed away in March of this year and I am learning a lot of new skills and stepping out in a lot of new areas in my life. I’m learning how to take care myself (in every way). I’m learning what my desires are and how to pursue them. Facing down those fears is not easy, but worth it! New challenges = new opportunities = new roads/paths to explore.

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      janet

      6, August 2012 at 9:38 pm

      wow ! you are amazing. my husband ( love of my life ) passed 5 years ago & i’m still not “over” the loss of him….not really happy like i was…. i know there are “paths” & “opportunities”, but – i just don’t feel like it

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    Elizabeth Peterson

    4, August 2012 at 9:58 am

    Noone ever walks alone anymore. We all travel in tribes. What a shame.

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    Cynthia Dean

    3, August 2012 at 2:30 pm

    This comes at a time when I am literally taking that step because I love me and love life.

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    Alan

    3, August 2012 at 2:20 pm

    Beautiful!

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    Brooke

    3, August 2012 at 1:01 pm

    One who walks with God never walks alone.

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    Zsofia

    3, August 2012 at 8:50 am

    Thank you so much!
    The past days i’ve been much thinking about this huge fear of being alone. I am still trying to hold hands of friends and family, I am still trying to please, I am still afraid of leaving the well-known path to walk into the wilderness. But still, every day I am taking another small step, I am going further and further into the unknown and although I am scared, I also know that I am safe, as long as I follow my heart.

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