I believe that being successful means having a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles. ~Zig Ziglar
It seems there are times when we all feel that life would be so much easier if we had more time in the day or if we could only cater to this or that a little bit more. We wear so many different titles in our lives, parent, son/daughter, spouse, brother/sister, friend, significant other, co-worker, etc.
How to Achieve and Sustain Balance in Your Everyday Life
How do we fill each of those roles successfully when we are only one person? Where is that line, how do we find it and once we do, how do we stay balanced? Well, since cloning humans are still far off, we have to look at why it is so hard to achieve and sustain balance in our everyday lives.
Many of us use the wrong definition of Balance, which is probably why we have such difficulties finding or achieving it. In today’s society, we look at and define ‘balance’ as a verb; meaning to arrange, adjust, or proportion the parts of symmetrically. Now how could anyone ever hope to BE a verb? By this definition Balance is an action that we try to DO all day every day – no wonder we become so exhausted when trying to ‘balance’ our lives. What most of us fail to realize is that; when it comes to our daily lives, Balance is necessary but it is not about asymmetrical distribution or weight. We shouldn’t feel as though we are walking a tightrope or constantly being pulled in different directions. The balance that we all seek to acquire is actually a noun defined by mental steadiness or emotional stability; a habit of calm behavior, judgment, etc.
Simply said Balance is acquired internally and reflected outward…it is never the other way around. The answer is simple – the balance we all seek is within ourselves. It is important to allow ourselves some time in our busy schedules to unwind and clear our minds, even if it is only five or ten minutes a day because this is where we begin to understand what we need from ourselves to reach mental steadiness or emotional stability.
Solitude is not the absence of company but the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life. ~Paulo Coelho
The daily stress that we often carry comes from the lack of balance or the feeling of being stretched too thin. We often feel overwhelmed, unable to be everything to everyone or unable to be many places at the same time. However, if you stop to think about it – is that really what is required of us? Balance is not about being everything to everyone all at once. Balance is about understanding ourselves, what we do and do not want; who we are and are not; what we are and are not capable of and staying true to ourselves.
We need to find the “middle way” in our own lives. It is the art of finding balance. Reflecting upon our lives, we soon discover what serves us well – nurturing calmness, ease, and simplicity. We also discover what it is that leads to entanglement, confusion, distress, and anxiety. Wisdom is being able to discern the difference, then knowing what we need to nurture and what we need to learn to let go. ~Christina Feldman
Instead of allowing ourselves to be defined by all of the titles we wear daily, we should instead define those titles by simply being ourselves. What this means is; once you have a clear understanding of who you are and what you want, your priorities will fall into place and you will be able to naturally and effortlessly achieve the state of habitual calm behavior and judgment. This then provides the desired sense of peace and balance that we all seek.
Do you believe in balance? Do you live a balanced life? Share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 🙂