When you SEEK HAPPINESS for yourself, it will always elude you. When you seek happiness for OTHERS, you will find it yourself. ~ Wayne Dyer
What is it that motivates you in life? What are the things you THINK are making you happy, and what are the things that really make you happy?
Are you able to observe yourself from time to time and see whether the things you chase after are really the things you want for yourself?
I think that most of us, want to want more than they want to have, because when they receive that which they were after, they go on to the next thing, and the next thing and this is how most of us spend our lives, running after something that we think it is outside ourselves, believing that our happiness lies in things, in other people, in different places, etc., and we rarely or never, stop to observe ourselves and our behavior, we rarely or never stop to think whether we are sane or insane for doing so.
It is never too late to return to yourself, never. I challenge you to do this.
I challenge you to start observing your thoughts, your desires, your feelings, and behaviors, I challenge you to become the observer of your own life, and believe me, by doing so, you will discover so many new and incredible things about yourself, you will find out so many things about your real powers, about the meaning of life, and about the meaning of real happiness.
From my own experience, I will have to tell you that, whenever I see happiness as a selfish act, when I think that by going to a certain place, having a certain thing, etc. I will be happy, almost 100% of the time I am wrong.
What I have discovered over the years, after doing so much introspection and observing myself and the many people around me, is that happiness is not a place you go to, happiness is not a person, happiness is not a dream you achieve, happiness just is. Is this simple.
We will find happiness the moment we stop to see the self as self, the moment we start to see ourselves as being one with the whole world. No matter where you are and no matter what you do, no matter how you look and no matter how much or less you have, etc., if you are not happy in that specific situation, if you are not happy with what you have and with who you are, you will not be happy if you change the environment., if you change your looks, your job, your partner, and your friends. You may delude yourself into thinking otherwise, but in the end, you will go back to feeling the way you do at this exact moment, and you will discover that happiness is not outside yourself.
We don’t want to accept this because if we do, we will have to wake up and take responsibility for how we feel, for our actions and behaviors, we will have to take responsibility for our own lives, and it can be somehow challenging to do so.
For those people who are on this journey of self discovery and self-mastery, as time goes by, as they will travel farther and farther away, they will discover what happiness is all about, and what really makes their heart sing, what really makes them glow, and they will discover that it is not money, it is not big houses and shiny cars, but rather having a meaning, a purpose in life, larger than themselves, larger than life.
It is always about giving, about sharing what’s best about ourselves with others, because, when we do so, we travel to the most incredible places, we feel like we never felt before, and if somebody asks us to describe these states of beings, to put them into words, it will be impossible, because it is beyond that, it is beyond words.
Happiness will not, and can not be found as long as we see ourselves as being separate from everybody else, as being better and more special than everybody else, this is not what happiness is. Real happiness is about sharing, about giving, the best we got to those around us, and when we do so, we will inspire others to do the same, and this is how the whole world will be transformed; this will be the moment we will realize that if we want the world to be a happy place to live, will first have to be happy ourselves, and by doings so, the whole world will be transformed.
Sooner or later, we will all discover this truth, it will all become very clear to us, and we will start to see things as they really are, not as we are.