Are you addicted to being offended by everything that happens to you, with you and all around you? Are you addicted to getting upset every time somebody says something mean to you? Are you addicted to complaining and criticizing the world around you? Do you see yourself as being a victim of all those horrible people who won’t allow you to live a peaceful life?
Do you want the whole world to change in order for you to be happy?
Do you want everybody to change in order for you to feel good about yourself?
Do you want the whole world to think, act and dress just as you do?
Do you really think the things, people, events, and situations will change just because you want them to?
Do you really believe this to be a healthy way of thinking?
We all know people like this, people who are constantly waiting for the world to change, to better suit their needs and expectations. I personally see people like this every single day, and I have to tell you that it can be really painful to watch. These people, if they don’t wake up, they will waste all of their lives waiting for something that will never come, because if you want the world to change, you have to start with yourself first.
The world is not the problem, you are.
The problem is in you and not in the environment, and you have to understand that all of those frustrations and all of that anger is nothing more than a projection of who you really are on the inside. It’s nothing more than a projection of your inner self, and you and I know that where there is anger there is also pain underneath.
You are using what others have to say, you are using their actions and behaviors as an excuse to project all of that inner pain and suffering outward, in one form or another, whether it is frustration, anger, sadness, criticism, and so on.
It’s funny how the world “changes” based on how we feel from one day to another, and we see it today as being more beautiful or more horrible than yesterday, or the day before yesterday and so on. Things don’t change, we do, and when that happens, we act as if the world has changed, not realizing that the world looks exactly the same and that we are the only ones who have changed.
I really believe that one of the most challenging things we can do is to work with people, and not only work with them but to also love them, to appreciate and treat them with respect. To cultivate healthy human relations can be a difficult task for many of us, and unfortunately, most of us quit whenever we are faced with “difficult” people. If a person looks, acts and thinks different than we do, we try to stay away from him/her as much as possible, and of course, a lot of us start criticizing them. Yes, we like to point our finger and judge others in order to feel better about ourselves. There are people who are addicted to this kind of behavior, people who need these “crazy, weird” people in order to boost their self-esteem and feel superior.
It’s really interesting how most of us would rather condemn and criticize, would rather complain about what others are saying or doing than try to get to know these people better. What are we afraid of? Diversity?
It’s a lot easier to judge than to try to understand why people act in a different way than we do, right? This is one of the many things I am working on because I really want to improve the relationship I have with and will have with all the people I interact with on daily bases.
I guess we are too busy trying to make everybody think the same way we do, act the same way we do; we are too busy trying to make them understand us, and we lose sight of what’s really important. If you do this, and I do this, and he/she, they/them do the exact same thing, what does that mean? It means that nobody is really interested in what others are thinking; it means that nobody is really interested in understanding others because they are too busy in trying to make themselves be understood. This is what a mad world looks like to me. Everybody want something but nobody is really willing to give that “something” to others, not knowing that what you give is what get in return.
If you want others to be interested in what you have to say or do, you have to first get interested in them. This is the key to healthy, strong and harmonious human relationship. If you get interested in people, people will get interested in you. It’s a lot easier this way than getting offended every time somebody would not be interested in what you have to say, or because they are behaving in a different way than you do, don’t you think?
You simply can’t control what others think, say or do, but you can definitely change you attitude towards them, towards their actions and behaviors, and if you don’t, you will become one of those bitter, resentful and hateful people who are constantly complaining about those around them, bitching and condemning the universe for their bad luck, waiting for that day when a miracle will happen and everybody will start acting according to their beliefs and expectations. And guess what?
That day will never come.