The Path to Happiness: Give up Blame!

From the list of our 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, we are now at number 3, Give Up Blame.

In a world where people constantly blame other people for how they are feeling, for what they have/ don’t have, for what they are, etc. it can be quite challenging to start taking responsibility for one’s own thoughts, feeling, and emotions. It can be quite challenging to understand that you and only you can determine how you feel, and you and only you can decide whether you are happy or unhappy.

The moment you accept it, the moment you understand that it’s not other people that make you happy or unhappy, but rather, it’s how you choose to look at what they do/ not do to you, that will be the moment you will regain your power. I can tell you from my own experience that this is one of the most amazing things you can do for yourself, and in that moment, you go from being weak, from being a victim to being a very powerful human being who is total control over his/her own life, and that is exactly how life should be lived. And I love how Eleanor Roosevelt spoke about this:

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

And how true is that?

It’s all in your hands, it’s all in how you choose to look at things; how you choose to interpret them… it’s all in how you choose to perceive yourself, your circumstances, the people around you; it’s all in how you choose to perceive life in general.

You can either choose to be a victim and blame it all on outside forces, or you can choose to take control over your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and understand that nobody can make you unhappy unless you choose to be so. You and only you have control over all of these things. You and only you.

~love, Luminita💫

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Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita, the Founder of PurposeFairy, is an enthusiastic student of the arts, psychology, and spirituality. Her acclaimed blog post, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy , was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Later on, it became the heart of her book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy., book that was published by Penguin Random House. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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    Reidun

    16, June 2012 at 7:42 am

    Oh oh, I so needed this today! Have been deeply engaged in negative “I’m a victim” thoughts all morning about a friend of mine who, according to my screwed up conviction, is annoying and not worth seeing anymore, I even let it spoil my treasured morning work-out. But who’s to blame? ME and only ME. Thank you Purpose Fairy for reminding me of this incredibly important truth: give up blame and you will live blissfully…

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      danaadmin

      17, June 2012 at 4:44 am

      My pleasure Reddun 🙂 Infinite Love and Peace!

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    Catherine Vanlandingham

    16, June 2012 at 3:22 am

    I totally agree with this article. And, I am doing just as you said. Starting to stand up for what I believe whether people like it or not. Tired of trying to be a people pleaser. They are going to like or dislike you no matter what you do. Only person to please is yourself and God. However, I feel we must do that in a meek spirit if we are to influence the minds of others. It is how we perceive ourselves, inside, that affects how others see us.

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