“The unexamined life is not worth living.” ~ Socrates
Figure out What You Really Want
There are some questions that you can’t stand to hear, much less answer. I totally get it. In the process of writing this, I re-asked myself these same questions, and I’m not going to lie, they were tough to even ask, let alone answer but by the end of this, you will feel such a strong sense of clarity and relief by having done it.
7 Important Questions to Help You Figure out What You Really Want
Here are 7 important questions that are meant to help you figure out what you really want in life.
1. Who am I?
This is by far the most important question you can ever ask yourself and if you walk away with any nugget of knowledge or powerful insight, let it be this: get to know yourself because you can’t go anywhere without knowing where you are right now. This is a question that will help you figure out what you really want.
The person you will spend the most time with in your life is YOU so get to know who that person is. Take every personality test that you can get your hands on and eventually you will start to see patterns and begin to have those “ahh” moments and find yourself saying “so that’s why I do that.”
The better you know yourself, the better capable you are of enhancing your life. If you know that you love to immerse yourself in a certain activity then you will be much better off in picking where you’ll be living the next 5 years than the person who doesn’t. This is only one example of when this comes in handy, there are so many more instances (more than you might think) in which knowing yourself will prove to be useful.
2. Why am I here?
Not only is this is a deep question but it’s also very useful one. Not only will it give you a higher perspective on your life but it will grant you knowledge as to what your purpose is. If there’s one thing everyone is looking for other than happiness, it’s purpose.
People want to feel valued and feel like they were put here on Earth for a reason. They want that reason to wake up in the morning and not walk around aimlessly through life. Simply asking this question will expand your way of thinking because once you ask this thought provoking question, it leads to even deeper questions which will allow you to discover what you really want.
3. What makes me wake up in the morning?
If there’s something that immediately comes to mind right now, then focus on that and keep doing it. Realize that not many people have that something that jolts them up in the morning with excitement and passion. If you can’t think of anything then I encourage to do try two new practice. The first one being gratitude.
Every morning when you wake up, declare a statement of gratitude. There is always something to be grateful for. Always. The second practice is trying new things because in trying new things, you begin to hone in on what it is that you really like to do. You will know because you will feel the difference and other people might just compliment you and tell you how good you are at a certain activity or how your face lights up every time you do it.
4. What do I want from life?
In other words, what do you truly desire? If there is something in your life, that you can’t stop thinking about, then that is as clear an indicator as any, to do it. Not everyone wants the same out of life. Some people just want to live a life of peace and tranquility and others want to live a life full of achievement and mastery. Pick what it is you want and don’t let others influence your decision because that might just be the worst mistake you can make for your own personal growth and happiness.
5. What do I expect from life?
You only get in life, what you expect. Hard to believe, I know. It’s difficult to face this question because in asking this question you must accept the fact that you are in control of your life and that everything in your life right now is a result of your thoughts, words, and actions.
Do you expect a life of misery and despair because up to this point, that is all you have experienced? Or do you choose to expect a life of joy, happiness, and fulfillment because it is within your power to create it?
6. What pain do I want to sustain?
This is one question that will be especially helpful for the overachiever because it’s hard to grind away at something you absolutely hate, even though you know you can do it. It’s just not practical. In trying to achieve anything it will require some pain but if it is doing what you love then it’ll be worth every second.
If you want to lead a healthy life with a fit and aesthetic physique, then by default you have chosen to sustain the pain of muscle fatigue and muscle soreness but you’ll love it because it’ll be a reminder of your progress in what you love to do most.
7. What am I giving to the world?
It is not enough to have all the riches and achieve the highest feats if, at the end of the day, you feel miserable. Inside all of us is the need to contribute and give to our community.
Why do you think some people who are successful financially still lead miserable lives that end in suicide?
It’s because they have not reached a level of fulfillment that will make them happy. They have everything they could want on the outside but not enough on the inside- which is the part that matters most. The best way to give to those around you is to give the gift of you– your talents, your joy, and your enthusiasm.