Trust should be earned and that’s something you’ve always heard, over and over again, but what does that even mean? What does it mean to earn it?
A lot of times we share things that are not ours to share in order to create some sort of connection with someone but that’s not real. And if you think about it, really think about it, you will understand what I mean.
Any kind of relationship we have is built on a foundation, but when this foundation for a friendship, romantic relationship, or even “bonding” with a coworker, is all about sharing what’s not yours to share, that’s when you show you’re not a trustworthy person. Any relationship that’s based solely on this, is a relationship doomed for failure.
Trust The Right People
In life, what I have learned the hard way, is that you need to know you can confide the people closest to you, and be certain that your personal stories will stay between you and them. If this isn’t so, what else do you have left?
Would you still be open to sharing with them your fears, your joys, your everything?
I think you already know the answer to this one!
When you don’t feel like your people are reliable, it is only a matter of time before that relationship falls apart and this is how many people simply stop trusting others, they stop believing in people, build walls around them and isolate themselves, in order to feel safe.
“Not enough of us know how to sit in pain with others. Worse, our discomfort shows up in ways that can hurt people and reinforce their own isolation. I have started to believe that crying with strangers in person could save the world.”~ Brené Brown
I’m not saying that’s good or bad, but what any of us can do is always assess the type of relationships, connections we want to have, and embody them.
If you want respect, embody it. If you want kindness, embody it. If you want trust, emanate it with all your being. I can go on forever but you understand where I’m going with this, right?
I strongly believe it all comes down to showing your vulnerability and here’s where this wonderful woman’s wisdom and life experience comes into play. There’s nobody like Brené Brown and the way she speaks about it turns this 5-minute video into a treasure.
Brené Brown On Learning Who Are the Right People to Fully Trust
Pay very close attention to what she says right before the first minute. I personal had an aha moment.