“When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”~ Paulo Coelho
It took me eight years to overcome my fears and self-publish my first book. When I finally did publish it, I thought for sure I’d be an overnight success.
Dealing with Disappointment
What actually happened was that no one seemed to notice my book. At the time, I didn’t have any social media accounts. No following. Nothing.
I sold about ten copies of my book to family and friends.
I was BEYOND disappointed.
I was teetering on the edge of depression.
And I had a choice.
I could either give up, like I had so many times in my past, or I could figure out why the universe was guiding me to create this book if no one was going to read it.
I was tired of always giving up, so I chose to go on a journey with the universe instead. On this journey, I learned to overcome my disappointment, and in that process, I sold 50,000 copies of my book and discovered my life purpose.
If you’re anything like me, I bet there’s something that you really, really, really wanted.
It may even have seemed for a while there like you were going to get it.
Whether it’s love, money or health, when you don’t get what you were hoping for, it hurts.
It hurts so bad that you may be tempted to just give up. I’ve been there. Feeling like all that time, effort and possibly money was wasted.
So what’s the point of trying again?
It’s easier to sit on the couch and watch Netflix with a bag of potato chips, right?
How To Move Through Disappointment in 3 Simple Steps
1. To move through disappointment is to let yourself feel it.
It might seem counterintuitive, but if you don’t let yourself feel the disappointment, it’ll stick around in your energy field causing havoc.
So if you need a day or two on the couch, take it.
Give yourself a break.
Let those emotions out.
Grab your box of tissues, scream at the top of your lungs, dance, run, do whatever it takes. Move those emotions out of your body.
Then it’s time to get real about why this disappointment happened.
2. To move through disappointment is to change your perspective.
Every single disappointment in your life is happening for you, because there is something better out there trying to find its way to you.
And if you got this thing you wanted, you’d miss out on the better.
You may be saying, “But I don’t care about better, I just wanted this!”
I get it, I do. But here’s the thing: our lives are divinely guided. And even if we can’t see that we’re worth more, our souls can. Our souls know that each human, including you, has an important purpose here on Earth.
It’s your soul’s job to lead you in a manner that will help you not settle for good enough. Or what you THINK will bring you happiness.
It’s your soul’s job to help you dream bigger and skip the things that will lead you off track from your real life’s purpose.
Disappointment is not a reflection of you not being good enough.
Disappointment is a reflection of you being too big for this thing, and if you got it, it would keep you small when you’re being called to rise up.
Say you wanted to create more money so you decided to ask your boss for a raise. You gathered up your courage, took a deep breath and marched into her office. She said no and you left deflated, and quite frankly, pretty upset. You know you more than deserve this money.
But what if there’s a way better job waiting for you across the street? Or maybe, you’ve been guided to start your own business, like I was?
By not giving you the raise, the universe isn’t saying you’re the worst, it’s saying that you’re so much better than this situation. But it’s up to you to choose this.
Each human creates their own reality.
This way of looking at disappointment is incredibly empowering, because no matter what happens, good or bad, your perception is that the universe is in your corner, supporting you every step of the way.
You begin to see yourself as a divine being co-creating with the universe.
The things that happen to you on a daily basis become not random, but divine guidance.
3. To move through disappointment is to write a new story.
You have the ability to create a magical life full of flow and ease, and this current disappointment is the perfect opportunity to get started!
It doesn’t matter if you don’t believe in things like this.
Your mind is more powerful than your doubts and fears.
Take a deep breath, and start telling yourself a new story: The universe loves and supports me, and I didn’t get it this time because there’s something way better out there for me.
Sit down and write it out.
Imagine it’s six months in the future and you have a life full of gratitude. Write down why you’re so grateful for this disappointment and all the wonderful things that came out of it.
Then close your eyes and visualize the joy and gratitude flowing through your body.
Read it a few times a day until you feel complete.
If you follow these three simple steps, not only will you move through your disappointment, you’ll turn it into a huge blessing!e