The world is always a good teacher and it’s here to tell you it is you who has to change, not the other way around. When you change, the world around you changes too.~ Rahul Chelat
In life, we always want someone to look up to, a teacher, a role model, a guide, a wingman, or a mentor. We are always in search of advice maybe because most of us don’t want to go through the rough seas of decision making.
So, we let someone we trust to decide for us. Some go in search of a teacher, a guru if you would. And that’s because when we have someone to think for us, we are relieved of the agony and the pressure of taking responsibility.
The one thing I have discovered in my ever-fleeting existence is that we are surrounded by teachers.
Life Will Always be Your Greatest Teacher
Life is not happening to you; it’s happening for you. That airplane that’s late by ten hours is teaching you to be patient. That’s another teacher you need to pay attention to.
Those friends who laugh with you and laugh at you behind your back are teaching you about fake friendships. That relative whom you helped but abandoned you when you were in need is teaching you to stand up for yourself.
I can go on and on, but you surely understand that life itself is your greatest teacher.
Everyone You Meet Is Your Teacher.
Everyone who makes us angry, upset, repulsed, or embarrassed is helping us grow and evolve. Their only job is to push buttons as often as they can. Our job is to learn that, our emotional turbulence has nothing to do with the outside world. It’s about being in control of oneself. The world is always a good teacher and it’s here to tell you it you who has to change, not the other way around.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
When our internal world changes, the outside world has no other way than changing for the better. We should be thankful to those teachers who are helping us grow and take control of our lives.
Think of someone whose presence is intolerable to you. Hear your mind talking bad about him or her. Unconsciously you have made a demand about that person.
You want him or her to change in a way that makes you happy. Don’t you sound like a dictator? You want the world to change so that finally you can be happy.
Is there anything more absurd than this?
How can you demand a person to change his behavior and years of conditioning just to live up to your demands and expectation?
We have so many unrealistic demands of the world:
She should love me.
He should respect me.
They should admire me. It shouldn’t be raining now.
The sun shouldn’t be shining so bright.
Do you understand that your demands are making you unhappy, not the situation itself? The world is alright as it is, it’s you who should change.
The next time you see that person who is irritating, understand that there is something wrong with you, not him. He is being himself.
We can surely protect ourselves from any harm but stop dictating others to behave in a way we find convenient for ourselves.
That’s freedom. This is the way to live.
If you need more help on how to control your emotions, feel free to learn from all those ‘so-called’ ridiculous, unjust, unkind people around you.
Every single one of them is another teacher in your life, whether they know it or not, helping you take control of your thoughts, emotions, and life at large.
It’s time for you to change and the world will follow.
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Rahul Chelat
Rahul is just another human looking for purpose in life. After struggling with it for over 30 years, he finally realized, life is what you make out of it and that it’s always NOW, never tomorrow or the next second. A copywriter by profession and a philosopher by attitude, he is juggling with the worldly pursuits and spiritual pursuits in his daily life, contented with the fact that, we are the universe expressing itself as a human for a little while.
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