Embracing Your Imperfection: Learning to Be Happy Again

Have you ever wondered what it means to really start embracing your imperfection and how this can change the quality of your life?

I know nowadays there’s more pressure than ever before to get things right in every part of our lives- to be perfect. Gadgets, apps, and advice on how to be your very best all the time surround us. But that’s such an illusion. No one can be perfect; it just isn’t humanly possible. 

“To banish imperfection is to destroy expression, to check exertion, to paralyze vitality.” ― John Ruskin, The Stones of Venice

Embracing Your Imperfection

I am a Type A, set the bar high, go after challenges, and stretch myself, kind of girl. Knowing I can’t expect to win at everything all the time, has not stopped me from trying and making myself miserable at the same time. 

Sit back for a minute and consider with me why embracing my imperfection has changed my life to happy, happy, happy!

Can’t Help It, I am Happier

Perfectionists carry a LOT of emotional baggage from trying to look as though their entire world is 110% wonderful all the time. They’re at a higher risk of depression and anxiety, and hardly ever content with what they have.

When I chose to embrace the messy, flawed parts of my life and myself, I became happier and way less stressed. Maybe my messy is way messier than yours?

I don’t know, mostly I made messes of relationships but expecting too much. You know, putting the same burden on them that I had on myself.

Could I be more flawed than most?

Well, sure, but who cares?

Not me. Not anymore!

“I had reached a stage where I could fake nothing. I knew myself, all truths uncovered, every myth busted. It was time to accept myself as I was.” ~Amanpree Singh

I Don’t Fear Failure Anymore

Accepting my imperfection means failure shrinks back down to being just another aspect of life. It’s like I have the power now – not failure. Failure and me are working really hard to become friends!

Perfectionists tend to take failure personally. It becomes a catastrophe and something that defines ou sense of self. But accepting that to make mistakes is human means you see failure as an opportunity to learn, make the necessary changes, and move on. And woot, woot!! Wow, is that a way more beautiful way to live!

“A good thing about our brain is that it willingly adopts any changes that we bring about in our thinking patterns.”~Raj Rishi

Embracing Your Imperfection Can Make You a Kinder Person

Now that I am comfortable with imperfection, I find I am not so quick to criticize and judge others. And that makes me a much better friend, mom, and wife. I am much less likely to blow my fuse at trivial things, and I find I cut people more slack. Overall, I can say my relationships are calmer and more rewarding. 

My Confidence Grew

As I came to accept my flaws and quirks (of which there are many), I am less likely to be hard on myself when I make a mistake. Perfectionists are usually their own harshest critics, and my self-esteem was fragile and easily crushed. 

Acknowledgment of my inability to be anything but me means I am less likely to feel guilty or ashamed when I make a mistake or don’t reach my goals as soon as I might have liked. 

I Hope I Will Inspire Others

Imperfection is the main thing of being a human. It’s how we learn and progress that can connect us. I have no doubt that gracefully accepting the ebbs and flows of life has made my children happier, my Hubby, too. My friends, family, and readers see that I value them more than any imperfection any of us may have. 

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Cate Leach

Cate is a Blessed Reject who loves sharing and helping others with the topic of overcoming emotional trauma. As a reformed perfectionist, Cate is all living life to the fullest - no matter how messy! Cate is passionate about sharing the path of processing the pain and overcoming through self-care and God’s grace to thriving to Better Than Ever! You can connect with her on her website BlessedReject.com,Facebook,Instagram and Pinterest.

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