Opening our hearts to Love is the way to healing our souls, our minds, our relationships, our bodies, our lives, and our world.
If you ask me, the most terrifying thing you can do to another human being is to take away from them their ability to hope, to love, to imagine, and to dream of a better life. To have them close their hearts to love.
And unfortunately, with fear you can achieve just that.
Fear: the enemy of Love
We live in a world infused with fear. A world that wants us to believe we can’t trust anyone – we can trust our fellow human beings, we can’t trust the future, we can’t trust nature, we can’t trust God, we can’t trust the food we eat, the water we drink, we can’t trust our bodies, our own hearts, and souls, and we can’t trust the natural flow of life.
In fact, if you pay close attention to what happens all around you, you will realize that the world we live in is presented to us as a place where we are surrounded by enemies – a minefield where nothing and no one can be trusted – a place where fear is at home and love has abandoned us all.
But that’s not really true.
Just as it is written in A Course in Miracles,
“Fear is really nothing and love is everything. Whenever light enters darkness, the darkness is abolished.” ~ A Course in Miracles
“Study me as much as you like, you will not know me, for I differ in a hundred ways from what you see me be. Put yourself behind my eyes and see me as I see myself, for I have chosen to dwell in a place you cannot see.” ~ Rumi
From traveling to so many different countries, from talking to people from all over the world, and from interacting with people of different social, cultural, and religious backgrounds, I have come to realize that the labels we use to define one another have nothing to do with who we truly are.
“Once you label me you negate me.” ~ Soren Kierkegaard
For example, I was born and raised in Romania. And even though a lot of people might think that that’s all it takes for them to know who I am, it’s not!
Before being a woman, a Romanian, a white person, and any other labels this world might have for me, I am a Human Being.
That’s what I am!
I am a Human Being!
And to Know Me – the Real Me, you have to transcend your many limitations and the many labels you have placed on me. Because if you don’t, you’ll never See me for who I truly am, but only for who you were programmed to think I am.
And the same goes for everyone else.
One big family
“Dehumanizing and holding people accountable are mutually exclusive. Humiliation and dehumanizing are not accountability or social justice tools, they’re emotional off-loading at best, emotional self-indulgence at worst. And if our faith asks us to find the face of God in everyone we meet, that should include the politicians, media, and strangers on Twitter with whom we most violently disagree. When we desecrate their divinity, we desecrate our own, and we betray our faith.” ~ Brené Brown
The heart – the Truth of who we all are, Knows that at the core level we are all ONE.
There is no separation between Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, Jew, Christian, white, yellow, black, brown, pink, red, etc.. No separation between you and the whole world.
The Soul has no color, no race, and no religion.
Your Soul is One with All Souls.
The Soul is One with Love.
One with Light.
One with God,
And One with the whole Humanity.
But in order for us to Know this spiritually – through direct experience, not just mentally – through rationalization and mental concepts, we first have to open our hearts to love and See our fellow human beings for who they truly are, and not for the many labels, we, and society have placed on them.
“This life’s dim windows of the soul Distorts the heavens from pole to pole And leads you to believe a lie When you see with, not through, the eye.” ~ William Blake
Opening Our Hearts to Love
It’s true that we have learned to close our hearts to love and push people away. But it’s also true that we can unlearn all the fearful things we have learned so that we can experience our ONEness and return to a place of Love and Truth.
And since Love is the only thing that exists, and fear is nothing but a lie – an illusion, opening our hearts to love shouldn’t be that difficult.
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” ~ 2 Timothy 1:7
We can learn to open our hearts to those around us by transcending our many fears, doubts, and limitations, and by learning to see our fellow human beings, through, no longer with, the eye.
We can learn to open our hearts to love by tearing down the many walls we have built between ourselves and the rest of the world – removing our many masks and costumes and allowing ourselves to be fully seen.
We can learn to open our hearts to love by looking people in the eyes and giving them our full and undivided attention.
We can learn to open our hearts to love by recognizing that suffering is part of the human experience and that our pain is no different than the pain of those around us.
We can learn to open our hearts to love by holding the hands of those whom we once resented and by offering them our forgiveness.
We can learn to open our hearts to love by replacing all judgments and criticisms with kindness and compassion…
We can learn to open our hearts to love by unlearning all the fearful things we have learned and by treat each moment as if it were a new life.
And I hope we will all find it in our hearts to do just that…