Toxic people can poison your mind, heart, and life. But you can learn to protect yourself from their negativity, by keeping them at at loving distance.
Removing Toxic People from Your Life
Whether we realize this or not, the people we spend our time with play a huge role in the quality of our happiness, health, and well-being. And if we surround ourselves with all kind of toxic people, we risk losing ourselves and our path in life as a result of the poison that continues to spread in our minds, bodies, and souls each time we interact with these people.
10 Types of Toxic People You Should Stay Away From
The first step toward removing toxic people from your life is to identify them. And hopefully, after reading this list of 10 types of toxic people you should stay away from, you will take the necessary steps to help you move in that direction.
1. Chronic opinion givers
Opinion givers are those toxic people who are always quick to share their sneaky and poisonous thoughts with you on topics that are sensitive to you.
Oh, look at you. You look so fat. Have you gained weight?
Remember when you did that thing and made you look stupid?
Are you really going to date that guy? He is such a loser… And on and on they go.
Even if you never ask for their advice and opinions, they will make sure you hear what they have to say. And if you watch them closely as they share their “valuable insights”, you will notice this smirk on the face. These toxic people feed with the pain of their victims and take great delight in poisoning your mind. So please, stay away from them. And always remember:
“An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.” ~ Unknown
2. People playing the victim game
If you’re reading this blog, chances are that you are a good person with a big heart who loves to be of service and who want to help those in need of help.
But be careful.
There are people out there who don’t want to be helped – they might look like they need help, but they don’t really want to be helped – they just want to play the victim game so that you will feel sorry for them.
Pity is the energy they feed with. And by you pitying them, they are in fact taking energy out of your body and your own life and using it in a way that’s not really beneficial for any of you. So please, take your energy back and stay away from these toxic people.
3. Needy people
You know the saying, give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man how to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime? Well, needy people don’t want you to teach them how to fish. They just want you to give them your daily fish and be there for them nonstop.
And if you dare to create some space between you and them to live your life, they will use all the tools they have at their disposal to make you feel sorry, guilty, and ashamed. And trust me, they’re really good at what they do. So please, do yourself a favor and remove these toxic people from your life.
We all have ups and downs and we all have moments when we want to talk to somebody about our problems. But to be around someone who complains nonstop about everything and everyone, that is exhausting.
Complainers take the life out of your life by constantly pointing out what is wrong with the whole world. And if you value your health, sanity, happiness, and well-being, you should stay away from these types of people.
People who constantly point the finger by blaming their parents, partner, children, boss, workers, society, and the whole world for how miserable and unhappy their lives are, are people who haven’t yet learned to assume responsibility for their own lives. And if they point out the finger at others, they will eventually point out the finger at you as well. Stay away from them.
6. Manipulative People
It can be quite a challenge to identify these people immediately, especially if they are really close to us. They know what to say when to say it, and they seem to do all things perfectly.
Even though your eyes may not see them for who they truly are, your intuition will somehow know something is off, your gut will send you all kind of signals that something is wrong. And if you choose to listen to your heart and follow your intuition, you will save yourself from a whole lot of pain, drama, and misfortune. So please, keep your eyes wide open. Trust your instincts. And stay away from these toxic people.
7. Gift givers
Who doesn’t like to receive a nicely wrapped gift?
We all do.
And gift givers know this very well. As a result, they use this “trick” to control and manipulate us by offering us a gift, after gift, after gift. Why? Because they know that by doing so, we will feel as though we are indebted to them, which makes it easy for them to control and manipulate us.
Pay attention to how you feel around these people and notice if you feel in your heart that their gifts come with strings attached. Your heart won’t lie to you. And if the answer is “yes,” chances are that this person’s nice behavior is not really that nice.
8. Energy vampires
If you want to know how to spot an energy vampire all you have to do is pay close attention to your energy levels and how you feel around certain people. Pay attention to whom your energy increases and to whom your energy decreases. Because that’s a clear sign of who you should allow in your life, and who you should stay away from.
You don’t have to be a genius to understand that if someone talks badly about others with you, they talk badly about you with other people. It’s a pattern. A disease. An addiction. And if you value your peace of mind, your happiness, and well-being, you will stay away from these toxic people.
One of the most powerful lessons I have learned from life is to always keep your two feet on the ground. Because just as the wise Lao Tzu said it more than 2500 years ago,
“When you stand with your two feet on the ground, you will always keep your balance.”
When you know your value and your true worth, you don’t really fall for flattery. You understand that whether people love you or hate you, that has nothing to do with you.
But if you’re not there yet, other people’s seductive and deceiving praises might get to you, failing to see that through their seductive and deceiving praises they are only trying to trick you into doing the things they want you to be doing. So please, keep two feet on the ground, and stay away from flatterers.
What about you? What is one type of toxic people you have learned to stay away from? You can share your comment in the comment section below 🙂
P.S. I want you to know that I am all about loving and treating people with love and respect. And I do believe with all my heart that at the core level we are all pure and loving. But I have learned, the hard way, that not all of us are ready to live life from a place of Truth and Love. And that is why is important to honor and love ourselves enough to walk away from all those people who aren’t yet ready to love and honor us.