As you start to trust yourself, you discover that you no longer need others to validate you, your choices and your life. In fact, you never needed their validation and approval. Your trust was always enough! ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
I don’t know if I’ve shared this with you, but a few years ago I had this inner knowing that I was going to write a book.
I had no idea how I was going to publish it and how it will all unfold. But what I knew for sure was that I was going to write a book and that the world’s largest book publisher was going to publish it.
With that inner knowing, I started working on preparing ideas for my first book. And in just a couple of months, I received an email from the chief editor of Penguin Random House (Penguin merged with Random House a few months before which made them the biggest book publisher in the world) to see if I wanted, yes, you’ve guessed it, to write a book with them.
I followed my bliss. Because just as Joseph Campbell said it so beautifully,
“If you do follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while waiting for you, and the life you ought to be living is the one you are living. When you can see that, you begin to meet people who are in the field of your bliss, and they open the doors to you. I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be. If you follow your bliss, doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else.” ~ Joseph Campbell
12 Powerful Ways to Trust Yourself
1. Learn to trust yourself by letting go of the ‘busy badge’.
I know you are busy. And I know you have a trillion things to do. But can you stop for a moment? Can you just breathe and look around you? Can you notice where you are going and how fast life is passing you by?
All that you deem important in life always seems to be Out there, never Right Here; never Where you are. And never Who you are.
Have you ever wondered why? Or are you too busy for that as well?
We run around like crazy people, doing so many things that have little or no importance at all. And because we are so busy with being busy, we honestly believe we have no time to silence our minds, to listen to our hearts, and to get in tune with our inner Truth, Knowing, Purpose, and Joy.
But we do. We really, really, really, really do!
Can you take 5 to 10 minutes out of your busy schedule each morning to just be still? To close your eyes, take a few deep cleansing breaths, and slow your mind down?
Can you find some time in your busy schedule to listen to the Sound of Silence; to reconnect with the Truth of who you are. And allow yourself to experience the everlasting peace that is present underneath all that chaos and mental noise?
5 – 10 minutes… That’s all it takes.
3. Trust yourself. Nobody knows more than you do.
If you ask me, we place way too much importance on what other people think. And not too much value on what we know in our hearts to be true for ourselves.
We ignore our Truth and Inner Knowing, by making idols out of those who seem to be smarter and wiser than we are. And in doing so, we fail to realize that nobody knows more about ourselves and our path in life than we ourselves do.
For way too long you have given power over you to forces outside of you – people, places, events, and situations. Assuming they all knew more than you did, you made all kinds of choices and took decisions based on what the world thought was best for you. Not based on what you knew in your heart to be right and true for you. And in doing so, you began to perceive yourself as being small, helpless, and insignificant.
But you, my friend, are not small and insignificant. Nor are you a victim of your environment. You are a powerful, unlimited, and divine. And your power was given to you – to use and to keep. And not to give it away.
5. Learn to trust yourself by asking deep questions.
What do I want?
What do I really want?
Are my actions guided by love, or by fear?
Are these things important to Me, or to Them?
Will this bring me peace of mind, or will it bring me inner turmoil?
Questions have power – great power, creative power. And by addressing deep questions To yourself, you will get profound answers From yourself.
6. Walk by Faith, Not by Sight.
If I have learned something from going through my journey through the Dark Night of the Soul is that the Soul – which is infinite, unlimited, and eternal, knows things which our limited mind does not.
The Soul is so much wiser than the mind can actually realize. And at times, in order to protect the Truth and Sacredness of who we are from the impurities of the mind, it will ask us to follow the advice of St. Paul, and:
“Walk by Faith, not by Sight.” ~ 2 Corinthians 5:7
To surrender ourselves completely to the part of us that lives in Light, Truth, Love, and Awareness. And allow ourselves to be guided, not in the direction the mind thinks we should go, but in the direction, the Soul knows it will be wise for us to go.
Wayne Dyer used to quote this line from A Course in Miracles quite frequently:
“If you knew who walked beside you at all times, on the path that you have chosen, you could never experience fear or doubt again.”
There is a world unseen to the eye but Known to the Heart. Seek to live from that sacred place.
Close your eyes to what is seen, and learn to trust in the unseen. For in doing so, you will soon discover that you are never alone – not even in those moments of intense pain and darkness when you feel as though the whole world has turned its back on you.
You are never alone! And even though, at times, your senses and the whole world will try to convince you otherwise, in truth, you are never alone.
8. Learn to trust yourself by being a friend to yourself.
A wonderful and powerful way to strengthen the trust you have in yourself is to become a friend to yourself. To love yourself for who you are. And to forgive yourself for who you are not.
To offer yourself the love, help, and support you desperately seek outside yourself. And to treat yourself with the love, gentleness, kindness, and respect you would want the world to treat you. In doing so, the connection you have with yourself will become stronger. And the trust you have in yourself will become greater.
You don’t have to share all your troubles, inner turmoils, fears, doubts, joys, laughter, dreams, and aspirations with those around you. You really don’t.
You know why?
Because most people don’t really care about your troubles – they have plenty of their own. Nor can they genuinely be happy for you since they secretly believe that there is a shortage of happiness. And if you take your slice of happiness, there’s not going to be much left for them.
Be wise my friend. And learn to keep some things to yourself.
10. Don’t pay too much attention to what others are saying.
When I first started thinking about my book, I had so many people who came to me and asked:
How are you going to write this book?
Who is going to publish it?
What about the marketing?
What about the book agent?
What about this and that and the other many things you need to do?
Have you figured everything out?
Do you have a plan?
On and on they went. And they all seemed so worried and concerned for my ‘lack of preparation.’
But I wasn’t.
You see, when you walk by Faith, not by Sight, trusting yourself and the choices you make, you don’t pay too much attention to what others are saying. You get out of your own way and you learn to trust yourself, life, the process, God, and your inner knowing. And that’s exactly what I did. And that’s exactly what you should be doing also.
11. Don’t let other people’s fears become your own.
Stay centered in your Truth.
Trust yourself. Trust life. Trust the process. Keep going, no matter how slow. And no matter what happens, do not allow other people’s fears and insecurities to become your own.
Everything you need to know about your life and why you are here on this planet is already within you.
It’s all in there.
There is no need to look Out there. Look within – the answers will never be found outside of you. Ask all from your Self. And in doing so, you will get the answers you are looking for.
Trust Yourself. I Trust in YOU
And these are the 12 powerful ways that are meant to help you to trust yourself. I hope these steps will inspire and empower you to take back your power reclaim your True Worth, and return to your Divine and Awesome Self so that you can live the meaningful and joyful life you came here to live.