21-Day Happiness Challenge Day 2121-Day Happiness Challenge Day 21: Let Go of the People Who No Longer Need, or Want to Be in Your Life

“Love liberates. It doesn’t just hold—that’s ego. Love liberates. It doesn’t bind. Love says, ‘I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you if you’re in Harlem. I love you. I would like to be near you. I’d like to have your arms around me. I’d like to hear your voice in my ear. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.’” ~ Maya Angelou

You let go of someone not because you no longer care, not because you no longer need and want them in your life, but because you understand that they will be happier someplace else. You will be happy someplace else. And this is what true love is really all about it.

Let Go of the People Who No Longer Need, or Want to Be in Your Life Exercise: 21-DAY Happiness Challenge Day 21

Think of that one relationship you have been trying to cling on to for so long. That one person you have been trying to prevent from leaving. And feel the pain that this clinging has brought upon you.

Stay in that space and much as needed, and whenever you’re ready, close your eyes, take three deep cleansing breaths, and with your hand over your heart imagine saying these words to them:

“I now give you permission to leave.

To go where your heart needs you to go, and to live the life you’re meant to live. (Keep in mind that it’s the relationship that you are letting go of but not the love you have for the other person.)

I would like for you to be near me. But that’s not possible now, so I love you. Go.

I release you and I set you free.

I set myself free…”

As soon as you say these words, imagine the invisible link that kept both of you in an unhealthy attachment for so long being permanently removed, and all the feelings of sadness, hurt and helplessness melt away.

You are free… 🙂


You have completed the exercise for the day.

This was 21-Day Happiness Challenge Day 21. If you enjoyed this exercise, share it with your friends, and discover more in my new book 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy.

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PS – If you’ve missed any days during the 21-Day Challenge, here’s your quick recap!

Day 1: Practice Forgiveness

Day 2: Release and Let Go

Day 3: Practice Self Love and Self Acceptance

Day 4: Be Here with All Your Might

Day 5: Look for the Lesson in Everything

Day 6: Fill Your Heart with Gratitude

Day 7: Smiling, even when It’s Hardest to Do

Day 8: Let Yourself Be Vulnerable

Day 9: Lighten Your Load

Day 10: Don’t Take Anything Personally

Day 11: Practice Tolerance and Acceptance

Day 12: Play the Role of Your Ideal Self

Day 13: Release Your Fears

Day 14: Practice Playfulness

Day 15: Do Something You Have Never Done

Day 16: Practice Random Acts of Kindness

Day 17: Get Interested in People

Day 18: Complaint Free Day

Day 19: Give More, Expect Less

Day 20: Love Everything, Be Attached to Nothing

Day 21: Let Go of the People Who No Longer Need, or Want to Be in Your Life

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Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita, the Founder of PurposeFairy, is an enthusiastic student of the arts, psychology, and spirituality. Her acclaimed blog post, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy , was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Later on, it became the heart of her book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy., book that was published by Penguin Random House. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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1 Comment

  • Lisa Clark

    21, March 2016 at 11:53 am

    I am very grateful on finding this website.This is exactly what I need to learn to let go; especially regarding my kids. Thank you.