The Five Greatest Gifts You Can Give to Those Around You

We often lose sight of the small steps we can personally take to improve the lives of those around us and offer them the greatest gifts we have to give.

Your Greatest Gifts

Below are the five greatest gifts you can give to those around you, that will cost you little but have the potential to improve their lives significantly.

The Five Greatest Gifts You Can Give to Those Around You

1. Give the Gift of Your Attention

“The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention.” ~ Thích Nhất Hạnh

The first out of the five greatest gifts you can give to those around you is the gift of your attention.

In an age where distraction is the default attraction, it’s easy for us to lose sight of the gift that we give to others when we give them our full attention.

Giving our full attention means listening.

It means putting our smartphones down.

It means looking someone else in the eye.

It means asking questions and waiting for the answers not just jumping ahead.

It requires us to be present in this moment. It means focusing on the here and now, without our minds wandering into the future.

It means making a real connection.

2. Give the Gift of Kindness

Give the gift of your full attention to others around you and allow them the stage they deserve.

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” ~ Mark Twain 

The second out of the five greatest gifts you can give to those around you is the gift of kindness….

A little well placed thoughtfulness and kindness can really make a positive impact on people around us.

This doesn’t always have to mean grand, sweeping gestures as small acts of kindness soon add up.

Help a neighbor with their shopping.

Walk a friend’s dog.

House sit for someone.

There are many ways we can offer the gift of our kindness. Not expecting anything in return except maybe the warm feeling we get from knowing we are doing something good for someone else.

3. Give the Gift of Time

The third out of the five greatest gifts you can give to those around you is the gift of time.

“Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. It is not enough to just say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. ~ Rick Warren

In a world where busy is the norm, giving others some of our time can make a real difference.

We can do this by taking our commitments seriously. By booking in time with friends and keeping that time free for those friends. By making time to stop and shoot the breeze for a while with a neighbor. By taking time out to spend disconnected from the online world to spend undistracted with a loved one.

4. Give the Gift of Not Judging

The fourth out of the five greatest gifts you can give to those around you is the gift of not judging.

We’re all human and sometimes we make mistakes in life. In such times it can help us all if we can talk to someone that will just listen without making judgments on us. Good friends will do this but we can also extend this gift to others.

5. Give the Gift of a Compliment

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~ Leo Buscaglia 

And the fifth-greatest gift you can give to those around you is the gift of a compliment.  This fits under the umbrella of numbers 1 and 2 on this list but is also worthy of its own spot. A well-timed and earnest compliment can have an immediate and positive impact on the recipient. It shows we have noticed something positive in others.

This compliment could be related to the physical (a new hairstyle perhaps) or be behavior-based (perhaps you mention how well they presented at a company meeting). Either way, we all like to hear a compliment every now and again. 

These are the five greatest gifts you can give to those around you that will cost you little but will give much.

** Out of these five greatest gifts, which one is your favorite and why? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 🙂


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Carl Phillips

Carl Phillips writes short books full of big ideas. He is also the proud owner of Frictionless Living which is focused on helping readers find and live their own version of a simpler, good life.

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  • Errin

    20, March 2016 at 7:56 pm

    Number 4 is my fave

  • Ajit Kumar

    13, March 2016 at 7:30 am

    For me all the five thoughts are very positive and inspiring.

  • Sepid

    12, March 2016 at 7:47 pm

    Number 4
    Is somthing which I do listening to my children family and friends and not judging them at all
    Thank you

  • Okba Chowdhury

    12, March 2016 at 3:51 pm

    I would say gift # 3 the gift of your time is the most valuable, because you are giving them a part of your life. But I think that gift # 4 of not being judgenmental is the most valuable one as you can give them your gift of time and still be judgemental and that would defeat the whole purpose of your gift of time. Thanks for reading my comment.

  • Vida Djobi

    12, March 2016 at 9:15 am

    Your Comment
    I love attention , kindness and compliments. It brings joy to me.

  • Monika Bhargava

    12, March 2016 at 8:11 am

    Thanks for these wonderful thoughts.
    All are amazing.I will definately try to apply in my life.Thanks a lot

  • Lulu Boncato-Kozak, Los Angeles, CA

    12, March 2016 at 4:56 am

    Gifts of attention,kindness,time,not judging and compliment are all important to give to each other. In this Digital Era, we are consumed with all the technology gadgets from Smartphone, tablets, computers,and social media platforms. It seems that we lost all the human touch. We need to unplug and re-connect with humans face-to-face and not be afraid to get to know them better. Thanks for this wonderful article.

  • Vasi Nistor

    12, March 2016 at 3:51 am

    Welcome home, Purposefairy! I hope you will have wonderful moments bere… Great article! Thanks!