There is no easy way to say this but “relationships” do take work! Love, trust, communication, respect, and friendship are a few key ingredients that can make a relationship wholesome. I’m in no way a relationship expert but feel a need to express myself. I remember the famous quote from the 1990’s movie, Jerry Maguire. Tom Cruise’s one line: “You Complete Me” changed dynamics of relationships. This gained tremendous popularity, and many felt this phrase when vocalized brought relationships to a whole new level. But in actuality “I complete me” should be the phrase every single person recites daily.
We are our own love, light, and source of inspiration. Loving yourself is vital, a process to creating a life of abundance. There is so much peace that comes from knowing yourself and crafting a life of your dreams!! When I recognize this truth within in me it brings clarity. What I would like to convey is that two “complete” people coming together create an everlasting union.
Now I grew up influenced by fairy tales and watched every Disney movie possible (my still all-time favorite Disney movie is Cinderella!). I believed that when you met your prince or princess’ life was complete. This, however, has changed. I’m a 34-year-old woman and realized in my 30’s that the most important relationship is with oneself.
If we do not express love, compassion for ourselves unconditionally, then how can we expect to attract like-minded individuals? It is so crucial to nurture your own heart always and to make sure you are a priority! Once you understand this beautiful concept the right individual will walk into your life in due time.
“Even miracles take a little time.” ~ Cinderella
The blessing of being in a relationship is that you are each other’s, teacher. Your significant other can bring out things in you that you have never recognized in yourself before. In essence, you are a reflection of one another and your souls unite to assist in each other’s evolution. I always think back to that beautiful poem how some people come into our life for a reason, season or lifetime.
Take peace knowing that everything is happening for your highest growth and healing. Let other’s come and go and bless them for being a part of your story. The song One, by U2, is my favorite all time love song as it invokes so many emotions. Love is governed by the higher law, we are to carry one another, forgive and allow the past to stay where it is.
But we’re not the same
We get to carry each other.” ~ U2
Many of us have friends who are married, couples with children, however, I’m on the opposite side of the pendulum. For all women and men who are single in their 30’s, there is nothing wrong with you! I have had my share of weddings, engagements and birthday are in which I have got asked the old age question “why are you still single”. I simply respond it is in the making and in divine order.
For myself, love is sacred and marriage is something one cannot rush. It feels like I’m not the only one, there are millions of us in the 30’s who are not living the conventional path that many of our parents did. No single being has the same journey we all striving do discover our own path. Take comfort knowing you are making a difference in this world by being you. Be open, be kind and be mindful and never forget to love yourself first!
People always come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for a reason…you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
LIFETIME relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..” ~ A Reason, A Season, and A Lifetime written by Brian A. “Drew” Chalker