Chasing after people’s approval will never reveal ‘to you’ how great you are. It will only reveal ‘to them’ how desperate you are to get their validation, love, and affection. And from that vulnerable place, you will make it so easy for others to manipulate, control, and take advantage of you. Don’t let that be your story. ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
If you ask me, to live a life where you stop caring about people’s approval, is to live a FREE life. This is what freedom is to me: to stop caring about what others think of you and BE whoever you want to be – without having to apologize to anyone for doing so. And that’s exactly why I wanted to share this article with you today. Because I want you to free yourself of this unhealthy need for approval and discover how liberating it is to Be Yourself!
5 Signs You’ve Stopped Caring About People’s Approval
1. You’ve stopped caring about people’s approval if your opinion of yourself matters more than other people’s opinions of you.
You are not consumed with what other people think of you. In fact, living in truth and integrity and honoring your path and purpose in life is a lot more important than living a life where everyone approves you, except yourself. And what you think of yourself – whether you are happy and at peace with yourself and your life, matters more than what others think.
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
2. You’ve stopped caring about people’s approval if you no longer do things because they look good on the Outside, but because they feel good on the Inside.
The essence of your Being and the quality of your life is no longer defined by passing trends and glamorous appearances, but by something deeper than that.
Truth, Love, Honesty, Integrity, and Simplicity are now your loyal guides through life. And the things you do, you do the, because they feel good, right, and true – on the Inside, not because they look good – on the Outside.
3. You’ve stopped caring about people’s approval if you know how to savor the moment rather than waste it.
You know that life is Here and Now – always right in front of your eyes. And that the best interactions are the ones you have in real life. Therefore, you no longer waste your time and energy trying to ‘build the perfect image online.’ You use your time and energy to live the best life, offline.
“Always hold fast to the present. Every situation, indeed every moment, is of infinite value, for it is the representative of a whole eternity.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
What you have, or don’t have; what you know or don’t know’ what you do, or don’t do… You know that none of these things can add any value to the real YOU. For who you are is whole and perfect. And will never stop being whole and perfect, no matter what you do, or don’t do.
The greatest difficulty is that men do not think enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their establishment. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
5. You’ve stopped caring about people’s approval if you’re comfortable with saying “no.”
In a world where so many people keep saying ‘yes’ when deep down inside they feel like saying ‘no’ – betraying themselves just so they can get some love and approval from those around them, you’re now comfortable with saying ‘no’ when your heart asks you to say ‘no’, and ‘yes’ only when it is a true and honest ‘yes’. Because as the brilliant Jules Renard said it so skillfully:
“The truly free man is the one who can turn down an invitation to dinner without giving an excuse.” ~ Jules Renard
And these are the 5 signs you’ve stopped caring about people’s approval. I really hope these words will inspire and empower you to continue to live your life in Truth and Integrity so that you can give others courage to let go of this toxic need for validation and approval, and Be themselves truly.
**What about you? Do you care about people’s approval or are you a free person? You can share your comment below 🙂
P.S. The more you learn to love, value, and respect yourself, the less you need to prove your worth to those around you; whether people approve of you, or not, no longer seems to matter. And oh, what a liberating feeling that is.