To care about people’s approval is to be their prisoner. And more than 2500 years ago, Lao Tzu was trying to teach is this valuable lesson:
“Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.”
You would think that after so many years we would’ve mastered this simple and valuable lesson, but we haven’t…
Here are 5 signs you’ve stopped caring about people’s approval and started living a life where you are free to live the way you want to live.
5 Signs You’ve Stopped Caring About People’s Approval
1. Your opinion of yourself matters more than other people’s opinions of you.
You are not consumed with what other people think of you. In fact, It’s a lot more important to you to live in truth and integrity, to honor all that you are and to live in alignment with your life purpose than to live a life where everyone (but you) likes you.
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
2. You don’t do things because they look good on the outside, but because they feel good on the inside.
Being at peace and living a balanced, meaningful, happy and harmonious life matters more to you than building a life that looks beautiful and perfect on the outside, but has nothing to show for it on the inside.
3. You savor the moment rather than waste it.
Being fully present in the now and savoring life’s joys is a lot more important to you than using the present moment to constantly take photos and post social media status updates so that you can show the world how much fun you are having and how good your life is.
“Always hold fast to the present. Every situation, indeed every moment, is of infinite value, for it is the representative of a whole eternity.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
You don’t tie your worth to things outside yourself. You know that your happiness, value, and worth is not dependent on external things – how many people love and approve of you, how much stuff you have, how much money you make, how big your bank account is, how your body looks, etc. You know that none of these things can define who you truly are. You know that none of these things can add more value to you since who you are is already enough. You were born whole and perfect and who you are underneath it all, will never stop being whole and perfect.
You know that your happiness, value, and worth is not dependent on external things – how many people love and approve of you, how much stuff you have, how much money you make, how big your bank account is, how your body looks, etc. You know that none of these things can define who you truly are. You know that none of these things can add more value to you since who you are is already enough. You were born whole and perfect and who you are underneath it all, will never stop being whole and perfect.
“The greatest difficulty is that men do not think enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their establishment.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
5. You’re comfortable with saying “no.”
In a world where so many people keep saying “yes” even though deep down inside they feel like saying “no”, betraying their own soul just so they can get some love and approval from those around them, you’re quite comfortable with speaking your truth. You’re quite comfortable with being true to yourself, with honoring and respecting your heart’s desire, and with saying “no” whenever you feel like saying “no.”
“The truly free man is the one who can turn down an invitation to dinner without giving an excuse.” ~ Jules Renard
The way I see it, to live a life where you stop caring about people’s approval, is to live a free life. This is what freedom is to me. To stop caring about what others think of you is to be free to be whoever you want to be, and free to live the life you came here to live.
What about you? Do you care about people’s approval or are you a free person? You can share your comment below 🙂