“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ~ Brené Brown
Even though we might think that in order for us to connect with those around us in a very deep and profound way, and in order for us to create genuine human connections we have to invest a lot of time and energy into our relationships, studies say that 4 minutes of uninterrupted eye contact is all that it takes to increase intimacy. And if you think about it, this makes perfect sense.
The eyes are the window to the Soul, and if you can drop all of your defenses, letting go of all your thoughts, worries and concerns and just allowing yourself to see the person standing in front of you for 4 minutes, while at the same time allowing them to see you, you can’t help but connect with them in a really profound and powerful way. You can’t help but create genuine human connections.
With the many things we have to do on a regular basis and all the thoughts that run through our minds, it can be quite challenging to still our minds and give the people in our lives all the attention, love and acknowledgment they need and deserve. But if we can do this simple exercise from time to time, looking into their eyes and seeing them for who they truly are, the quality of all our relationships will improve and our lives will be forever changed.
And in the closing, here is a short video where 6 pairs in different stages of their relationship are testing this theory of 4 minutes of uninterrupted eye contact. I think you’ll like it.
P.S. I think you’ll love what that beautiful woman says to her husband at minute 3:15.
How to Create Genuine Human Connections