“Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same toward you, it can be said that you are in a love relationship with him or her. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or with a bird, a tree, a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
A couple of years ago I started asking life to teach me how to love all people in the same way that God loves us all. It was a thought that came to me while I was meditating and because I felt that it came from a pure, sincere and honest place, I decided to pay attention to it. And that’s how, in my daily meditations, I started asking life, God, and my Soul, to teach me how to feel love in my heart not only for those people who were kind and loving toward me but toward everyone, including those people who I might see as being selfish, insincere, unkind and unloving.
I really wanted to learn how to love all human beings equally, no longer having to exclude anyone from my heart like I had done for so many years. And even though I assumed that life was going to teach me all these valuable lessons in a very kind, soft and loving way, soon enough I was going to discover that that wasn’t the case 🙂
“Love binds everything together in perfect harmony.” ~ St. Paul
You see, after doing so much work on myself, healing my past and letting go of all the baggage that had been weighing me down for so many years, I came to the realization that love is the answer to everything. That love is what gives life to our life, and that the more love we put out in the world, the happier we will become and the better our lives will get. Knowing that, I wanted to make sure that I opened my heart to love more and more and that I shared my love, not just with those who loved me, but also with those who didn’t. And I guess that’s how all the chaos started. Why chaos? Well, let me tell you.
How Love Binds Everything Together in Perfect Harmony
Not long after I started asking for this kind of love, all kinds of strange things started happening, things that later made me lose my faith in humanity and my trust in people. After giving an interview to a national newspaper here in Romania, I started receiving all kind of messages, comments, and emails from many of my compatriots that were full of hate and negativity, messages that made me regret giving that interview and opening my heart to those people.
While all of this was taking place, many of my accounts – Facebook, PayPal, emails, blog, iCloud, were being hacked. And I just didn’t know what to do. I couldn’t understand what was happening and why would anyone do something like this to me. And when I reached out for help from my closest friends, the people whom I was sure were going to be there for me in a time of need, none of them were there for me. None of them was able to offer me the help and support I needed.
“Out of clutter, find simplicity. From discord, find harmony. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” ~ Albert Einstein
It all happened gradually, and before I knew it, my heart closed itself completely. It was cold as ice and I just couldn’t feel any love in my heart for anyone, not even for myself. I wanted to feel love but I just couldn’t do it. I didn’t know how anymore. And I stayed in that place for a long time, trying my best to see something good in people, something that would remind me of the love I once held in my heart for them, but nothing seemed to work.
I would read many of the beautiful emails, comments, and messages from many of you, and even though I could recognize the beauty and the honesty in the words, I just couldn’t feel anything. My heart wouldn’t allow it.
“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keep out the joy.” ~ Jim Rohn
Love is life and life is love, and because my heart was closed and I couldn’t love anymore, I no longer felt alive. There was nothing for me to feel excited about, nothing to look forward to and whenever I would reach for a friend, they all seemed to be busy living their own lives and dealing with their own issues, which made things even worse.
I got so angry with myself, with life, with my friends, with my family, with humanity and with God himself. It just didn’t feel right. What was happening to me made no sense whatsoever.
I had been so good. I had done so much and the way life was repaying me felt so unfair and unjust.
With all the pain that was piling up, no longer being able to stand up, I eventually fell down on my knees… and that’s when I remembered to pray.
Even though I was really upset with God for how He was treating me because there was nowhere to go, no one to talk to, I did what I used to do when I was a little kid – I started praying. And I prayed like I have never prayed before – morning, afternoon, evening, even in my sleep, and that’s how, in time, I realized that what was happening to me wasn’t God’s way of being cruel and unkind toward me, but rather God’s way of helping me learn how to love people like He does.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” ~ Matthew 7:7
One of the most valuable lessons I have learned from life is to ask for that which I want to receive, not from the people around me, but from life itself. I learned to ask for that which I need from my Soul and from God. And I realized that by doing so, my wishes are always granted. Maybe not in the way I want them to be granted, but always in the way I need to be granted.
This whole experience has taught me that people are people, and we all know that people aren’t perfect, just as you and I aren’t perfect. And even though they behave in ways which harm and cause us to feel a great deal of pain and suffering, that doesn’t mean they are not worth loving.
“Come, whoever you are! Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving. This is not a caravan of despair. It doesn’t matter if you’ve broken your vow a thousand times, still and yet again come!” ~Rumi
It’s so easy to love people when they are lovable, anyone can do that, but what about when they are not? What about when your friends aren’t there for you when you need them the most, when your family disappoints you and when people say mean and nasty things to you and about you? Can you love them then?
I struggled so much that past year because of everything that happened, and I had moments when I wanted to punch those people in the face for saying all those nasty things to me and for doing all the stupid things that they did. But now, after processing everything and seeing things with different eyes, I no longer feel that way. In fact, I am thankful to all of them for helping me learn such powerful and valuable lessons.
Even though I’m not yet fully recovered from this whole “intense training”, I know that everything happened exactly the way it was supposed to happen. And I know that my heart will be fully open once again, and I will love like I have never loved before and that those who receive my love will blossom, and they will shine like they never shined before. Because that’s what love does. It brings out the best in us, helping us shine our light into the world, and turn us into who we truly are – powerful, divine and radiant beings.
“He whom loves touches not walks in darkness.” ~ Plato
Love cleanses us of everything that’s not real, of everything that’s not real and authentic, and of everything that keeps us from being who we truly are. And the better we get at expanding our circle of compassion, loving not only those who love us, but also those who don’t, the more we will be able to step into our own power, and the easier it will be to connect with every human being at a very deep and profound level.
Love is who we are. It’s what gives us radiance and power. It’s what makes us feel alive. And if we close our hearts to love, we will die little by little. Because love is life and life is love, and if there’s no love, there is no life.
We are all in this together, and we should all learn to open our hearts to love a little bit more each day. We should all learn how to love one another a little bit more. To love not only those who love us but also those who don’t. And to love people, not because of how nicely they behave toward us and everyone else, but because of who they are underneath it all.
We should all learn to “forgive all men for being that which they are and know that all men express that which he is, as Man, conscious of being.” ~ Neville Goddard. Because by doing so, not only will we experience a lot of joy and happiness in our life, but we will also remember who we are underneath it all, what the purpose of our life is and what the reason for our existence is.