“Not all those who wander are lost.” – J. R. R. Tolkien
When You Are Lost
What do you do when you feel lost and don’t know what your next step is going to be?
What do you do when life no longer wants to help you achieve the many things you so desperately wanted to achieve?
What do you do when nothing you do seems to be right anymore, and when all your dreams, goals and plans seem to be falling apart?
For those of us who are very attached to this picture we have in our head of how life it’s supposed to be and how everything should function in this world, having things go differently than expected can be quite a fearful, shocking and terrifying experience.
We like to think that we are in control of ourselves and our lives. We like to think that we are in control of what happens in our relationships, our homes and in the world around us, but the truth of the matter is that we have little or no control over any of these things. In fact, most of us have no control over our own thoughts and feelings, let alone the lives of those we love and the world we live in.
A Course In Miracles speak about this so beautifully:
“You who cannot even control yourself should hardly aspire to control the universe.”
Life has its own path, its own rhythm, its own flow and its own purpose, and our job is not to control life, but rather to go with the flow of life. Our job is to follow the rhythm of life and not try to disrupt the natural flow of things.
When we try to interfere with the natural flow of life. When we make all kind of rigid plans and then desperately try to adjust life according to them, we can’t help but get hurt. How can you not get hurt when, instead of going with the natural flow of life, we desperately try to push against it? Thinking that our plans are better than the ones life has for us. And assuming that we are smarter and wiser than life itself.
Woody Allen once said that “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” And even though for a very long time I couldn’t really understand what these words meant because you see, I knew we have free will and that we are the creators of our own lives, I eventually got it.
You see, I have come to realize that there are two sides to us. There is the mind created self who is fearful and selfish, constantly seeking for love, approval, and validation in other people, in things, experiences, etc.. Constantly striving, but never arriving. This side of us that is rigid, attached to how things should be, how life should unfold and how everyone should behave. And who has no interest in letting go of control and putting its trust in life? And then you have the real you, which I like to call the Soul or your Authentic Self.
This side of you is overflowing with love. Love for yourself and love for the world around you. This side of you knows the reason for your existence and the purpose of your life. It recognizes itself in all things and all people, and it knows that everything that happens in your life, it’s meant to serve you, to grow you and to strengthen you.
This side of you lives in peace, joy, and harmony, and loves to go with the flow of life. It has no interest in clinging, in controlling or getting attached to rigid ideas, plans and concepts about how life should be and it seems to have no difficulties in trusting in the wisdom of life and dancing to life’s rhythm. And when you “get lost”, when you feel lost, it’s usually because these two sides switch places.
Not because they want to, but because of the real you, your Soul, is a lot stronger and a lot more powerful than your mind created the self, and it’s constantly seeking to bring you back to the light, and back to living the life you are meant to live – wanting you to experience your own beauty and perfection, allowing your light shine as brightly as possible so that others can recognize themselves in your own light and start living their lives from the Soul level as well.
“It is good to feel lost… because it proves you have a navigational sense of where “Home” is. You know that a place that feels like being found exists. And maybe your current location isn’t that place but, Hallelujah, that unsettled, uneasy feeling of lost-ness just brought you closer to it.” ~ Erika Harris
So you see, when you get lost and don’t know what the next step is going to be, you shouldn’t be scared, since getting lost is just another attempt of your real self to bring you back on your life path. Back to helping you craft your life on a strong, loving and healthy foundation.
Your Soul is there to guide you, to lead you and to help you take the necessary steps towards creating the truthful, loving, joyful and balanced life you truly deserve. Teaching you how to let go of the need to control everything, and helping you to relax into life.
When you feel lost, your Soul is trying to get your attention, reminding you to be soft like water. To let go of fixed plans and concepts and allow events to follow their natural course. To surrender to what is and trust that by doing so, life will take great care of you. Because it will.