“If you experience emotional pain, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It doesn’t you’re ‘broken’ or ‘defective’. On the contrary. It shows you are Human.” ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
There are moments in life when emotional pain knocks on our door, not to harm or hurt us, but to signal to us that something in our lives is in need of healing. To signal to us that something within us is out of balance and needs our love and attention.
If we learn to pay attention to the signals – by treating the root cause instead of resisting the symptoms, we will heal the parts of us in need of healing, and we will bring back home all the parts of us that were once scattered and fragmented – back into Wholeness, and back and into Unity.
12 Tips for Recovering from Emotional Pain
1. Embrace with grace all that you face.
“Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Make peace with where you are right at this moment. Put aside any feelings of anger, disgust or frustration you might have towards yourself, your emotional pain and your current reality. And do your best to replace all that negativity with compassion, love, and understanding.
2. Give yourself time to recover from emotional pain.
Remind yourself as often as possible that healing takes time – it takes time for a wound to heal and all emotional pain to turn into joy.
So give yourself time… Time to rest, time to heal, and time to fully recover from whatever it is that you went through.
Allow time to wash away all that emotional pain.
3. Let go of control.
“There is a time for being ahead, a time for being behind; a time for being in motion, a time for being at rest; a time for being vigorous, a time for being exhausted; a time for being safe, a time for being in danger. The Master sees things as they are, without trying to control them. She lets them go their own way, and resides at the center of the circle.” ~ Lao Tzu
There will be days when you will want to control things and accelerate the healing process.
Trying to rush and force things into happening faster will only create more emotional pain and suffering. Allow things to follow their natural course. Surrender yourself to the wisdom of your mind and body, and allow healing to occur naturally.
4. Suffer consciously.
Get into the habit of observing your emotional pain… your anguish, and frustrations.
Observe the constant stream of negative thoughts that run through your mind – the dreadful stories that keep feeding your pain, the self-abuse, the addiction to all that emotional pain and suffering, and choose to let it all go.
Let it all pass you by.
You are not your thoughts. You are not your pain. You are the consciousness behind it all. Always remember this.
5. Love your pain away.
There is no power greater than the power of LOVE. Love has the power to heal all wounds – to turn all darkness into light, all pain into joy, and all wounds into wisdom.
Don’t curse your pain.
Embrace it, accept it, nourish it. Welcome it with open arms. And through your love, the pain will be transmuted it into Joy, the darkness into Light and all your fears into Love.
6. Just Be
Take time to just be – still and at peace, without having to constantly DO something; without constantly having to chase and busy yourself with all kind of things that take the life out of your life.
Give your mind and body a break from all the noise and distractions that tire and exhaust you. And allow your whole being to be brought back to life through rest and stillness.
7. Offer yourself the gift of YOU
Take time to be alone with yourself. To acknowledge, love and appreciate the parts of you that are beautiful, but so neglected.
Take time to make peace with the parts of you that are in pain… the parts of you that have been starving for your love and affection.
Immerse yourself fully into your own Being.
Offer yourself the gift of your time, your Presence, your Goodness and Compassion… The gift of your Love and Affection…
Offer yourself the gift of YOU.
8. Reach out for help and support.
“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” ~ Karl Marx (composer)
When the time feels right, seek the help and support of those people who can truly understand, help and support you; of those beings who can inspire you to be defined by a vision of a healthy and fulfilling future, not doomed by a fearful and painful past.
Seek the help, guidance and support of your own Inner Being – through prayer, meditation, contemplation, and communion. Ask for help and support. And allow help to be given.
9. Let nature heal and comfort you.
“One has to be alone, under the sky, Before everything falls into place and one finds his or her own place in the midst of it all. We have to have the humility to realize ourselves as part of nature.” ~ Thomas Merton
Spend as much time as possible in nature. Allow nature to play its part in your healing and recovery.
Allow nature to heal and comfort you. To teach you more about the infinite circle of life – about birth, life, death, rebirth and about yourself.
Allow nature to be your wise friend, teacher, and companion. To show you evidence of decay, destruction, and death… of rebirth, rejuvenation, and renewal. To remind you that you are not alone. And that you too are part of nature.
10. Claim nothing as your own.
“Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take nothing that you have received… but only what you have given; a full heart enriched by honest service, love, sacrifice, and courage.” ~ St. Francis of Assisi
Love everything but cling on to nothing, not even your emotional pain. Make peace with this idea that nothing in this life lasts forever, that nothing is yours to keep.
Live each day as if it were your last. Each moment as if it were your only moment. Make the best of everything life sends your way and waste no time on arguing against what is.
11. It’s all for your highest good.
Every experience that comes your way – even the most painful one, comes your way to Awaken and to Free you – from your pain, your fears, your sadness, and your darkness.
It doesn’t come to punish you.
It comes to balance the chaos within you and restore harmony back into your life. It comes to turn darkness into Light, fear into Love, and it comes to restore all of you back to Life. Do not be afraid. It is all for your highest good.
12. No pain is forever, not ever your emotional pain.
“Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses, and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures.” ~ Joseph Addison
Everything in life has a beginning and an end. Nothing lasts forever. It will all eventually come to an end. When it does, when all your emotional pain will be washed away and the veil will be lifted from your eyes, you finally See that it was all happening For you, not To you.
You are in good hands. You are loved and you are safe.
And these are the 12 ways that are meant to help you recover from emotional pain.
As you go through your healing journey, it’s important to remind yourself of the importance of being kind, gentle and compassionate with yourself.
You have been through a lot already, and you don’t want to add more pain on top of the pain you might be currently feeling.
Love yourself and be good to yourself. In doing so, not only will you feel much better about yourself and your life, but you will allow the healing to happen faster.
P.S. Your pain is not your personal life story. Don’t claim it as your own. If you do, it will be yours!