“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
Do people really want to be happier?
Are you sure?
Of course, they do!
It’s what most people are constantly seeking, maybe in the wrong way through materialism or short term gains, but it still makes top of the list. In her book The How of Happiness Sonja Lyubomirsky points out 40% of happiness is down to what we do and what we think.
So what do they do and how do they do it?
1. They’re selfish
I know what you’re thinking… how can someone who is happy be selfish? I don’t mean selfish towards other in fact the opposite is true as you’ll see later on in this post, however happy people are “selfish” because they look after and make time for themselves and improve and grow mentally and spiritually. They make themselves better so they can be at their best and as a result, this type of selfish self-love makes them happier than someone who makes no effort to take care of themselves or learn to love themselves.
Are you being selfish?
2. Don’t compare themselves to celebrities
Or anyone else for that matter. Comparing yourself to someone else is setting you up to fail. You are not someone else and never will be. You need to find your own personal qualities so you can be fulfilled and live on purpose I will share how in a moment but for now you need to realize how you feel when you focus on what other people have or how successful they are. It makes you feel bad really bad and to the point of giving up on whatever it is you’re trying to create. But like I said they are who they are, you are you and you are special and unique. Happy people know this and never compare themselves to others.
Giving makes you happy. It makes you feel good and also benefits the person you give to. Give a smile, open the door for someone, call someone, give someone a genuine compliment; you don’t always have to go overboard small acts of kindness are as good as large ones.
Do you hold grudges against people and always trying to figure out how you can make them pay for what they did? Yeah, I get it people do bad things, however, if someone is truly sorry for what they have done then what is stopping you from forgiving them? Happy people find this easy and they also
know the benefits. Not forgiving causes resentment which can affect your health and well being.
5. Enjoy the moment
We are never really focused on the moment. We are either thinking back to something that has happened or worrying about the future, whether its what your going to have for dinner tonight or will you ever be able to afford to take your next vacation because the bills are piling up!
Happy people, on the other hand, feel the moment, experience the ‘now’ and enjoy whatever is going on around them. This is a powerful concept and should be practiced as often as possible, because when you are going back and forth in time you are experiencing those emotions now as though the experience is real, if there is nothing you can do right now with the things you are constantly worrying about it would be a good idea to focus on the task at hand.
When I found my purpose (which was to help people like you find yours, live fully and manifest your dreams) everything became clear, the reason I exist actually matters, I feel like I exist for a reason and I don’t just plod on through life asleep taking whatever comes my way. I fulfill my purpose by
finding great pleasure in helping other people. Period.
If you want to begin living on purpose too, Identify your core values, strengths and passions then put a plan in place that blends these three inner traits they will bring you purpose through your work and play.
Notice how I didn’t mention buying lots of stuff that will make you happy or obtain lots of money. It’s all a matter of what you are prepared to do and think. There’s obviously more to this, however this is a great start. Choose to follow these 6 unconventional secrets of happy people and see how much your own life begins to change.