“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength- carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” ~ Corrie ten Boom
Why we worry
When it comes to concerns about life’s uneasy or potentially disastrous issues, we start to worry. I don’t think there is a single person in this world that hasn’t experienced a copious bout of the worries in their lifetime — but why do we do this?
There could be a number of reasons, some being:
You feel you need to ‘prepare’ yourself for the worst
You are a ‘glass is half empty’ kind of person and just expect the worst to happen
It is in your experience that disaster always strikes, so worry is a necessary coping mechanism
There are so many things that could go wrong and you feel you need to focus on each one to embody it or try to find a possible solution for it in the event of it happening.
Now, if we actually look at this list from an outsiders point of view — in other words, we take ourselves out of the equation and are impartial — these worries are not only a waste of precious manifesting time but they are a reinforcement of unconstructive potential timelines.
You Are What You Think
Just remember you bring about what you think about the most. This is not meant to scare you, it is a preparation tool so that you can steer your thoughts to more positive neurological pathways. When you reinforce encouraging scenarios in your mind, as opposed to harmful scenarios (aka worrying), you are creating the potential for a more fruitful future.
Easier said than done?
Sure, but it is possible.
Answer this: Has worrying ever solved your problems anyway?
I’m going to take a stab in the dark and say ‘no’ it probably hasn’t, right? So what can you do now to alleviate any future concerns you have?
Eckhart Tolle has pointed out three memorable and straightforward options that you can apply here, either: remove yourself from the situation (in this case, remove the worry), change it (transmute the worrisome thought form), or accept it totally (surrender to any future possibility). But let’s go into it a bit more:
6 Techniques to Stop Worrying
1. Do Something to stop worrying
Swap worry for doing. Can you actually do something about it now? If the answer is yes, take those first steps and you will begin to lighten the load off your mind. Even if it means writing the problem down. Just getting it out of your head and onto paper can be a relief. You can even then burn the paper or trash it symbolizing your new stance on worry. Tell your troublesome thought who is the boss!
2. Find a solution
Map out a possible solution. Again, it is always helpful to write it down so that your mind is free of it. When you can look at some achievable solutions, you may gain a better perspective of how you can change or alter the course of your quandary.
If there is absolutely nothing you can do, then try acceptance of what is. If you cannot change what is, you need to let it go and find peace within your situation.
Solutions will present themselves when we quiet the mind. There is a wealth of information just waiting for you to tap into when you are in a meditative state. Clearing your mind of what I like to call ‘mind-static’ (continuous loops of mind chatter) will help you to excavate that diamond of truth and gain a lucid perspective.
Remind yourself that what you think you attract. Do you want to attract more of what you are worried about? If not, then switch to thinking about what you do want to manifest in your life and let all negative outcomes go.
6. Affirm Happy Outcomes
Practice positive affirmations and visualize your best outcome to the situation at hand. Keep reaffirming, every morning and evening, this ‘happy outcome’ and truly feel the emotions of having it in your life right now.
“Make sure your thinking is pointing you in the right direction to manifesting your ideal destination”
The mind can be trained to think differently — you are 100% in control of your destiny. You have a choice to rewire your thought process to align with what you want to manifest — don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Don’t fall into the trap of being a ‘victim of circumstance’ — this state doesn’t really exist as you create everything and only you can give it the necessary potency. Playing any kind of victim role is a disempowering position that you should try to not take part in.
You are the powerful creator of your reality and you are in the driver’s seat — where are you going? Where do you want to go? Wherever you see yourself in the future just remember, worrying never got anyone anywhere — so…
Hakuna Matata* all the way!
*a Swahili phrase that is literally translated as “There are no worries”