How do you deal with death, the loss of a loved one when the pain is so strong? How can you let go of the people you once loved and still love so much? How can you accept the fact that you will never see those people ever again?
How can you accept the idea of loss, of death?
It’s not always easy to let go of the people who are so dear to us but it doesn’t have to be hard either. Looking at things from a different perspective can help us experience miracles in our lives, can help us understand life and death, and can help us realize how everything happens in perfect and Divine order.
7 Ways to Deal With the Death of a Loved One
1. Life is stronger than death
This beautiful and powerful quote says it all:
“Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death.” ~ Unknown
2. Ignorance and fear of death overshadows life
We come to this world alone and we leave alone. And the same applies for every single human being on this Planet.
Accepting the idea that nothing lasts forever and dwelling upon it as frequently as possible will help us deal with the death of those close to us and why not, with our own death, in a really positive and peaceful manner.
“Thinking and talking about death need not be morbid; they may be quite the opposite. Ignorance and fear of death overshadow life, while knowing and accepting death erases this shadow.” ~ Lily Pincus
3. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience
Death is not the end. As human beings, we are taught to trust more in those things that can be touched, felt, smelled, and seen. But there are things that can’t be seen and they too exist.
There is a world out there that is not visible to the naked eye. A very powerful world, a world that we all originate from and a world where we return the moment we leave our physical bodies.
“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” ~ Teilhard de Chardin
Just imagine how in the first 9 months of life ,when you are in your mother’s womb, you are being offered all the nourishment you need. All the love and all the care that is necessary for your growth and survival is being offered.
Why wouldn’t the same thing apply after death?
“Each separate being in the universe returns to the common source. Returning to the source is serenity. If you don’t realize the source, you stumble in confusion and sorrow. When you realize where you come from, you naturally become tolerant, disinterested, amused, kindhearted as a grandmother, dignified as a king. Immersed in the wonder of the Tao, you can deal with whatever life brings you, and when death comes, you are ready.” ~ Lao Tzu
5. Death is part of life
We should celebrate the loss of a loved one just as we celebrate the birth of them. I am sure that the people who were once on this planet, the people we loved and still love so much, would want us to remember the many beautiful and precious moments we spent with them and focus on that and nothing else.
Would you want your family to be sad and unhappy once you leave this world, or would you want them to continue to enjoy life and treasure every moment they have left on this planet? Think about it…
“Death is beautiful when seen to be a law, and not an accident – It is as common as life.” ~Henry David Thoreau
6. Accept and embrace your grief
When somebody you love leaves this world, you feel like the end of the world has come. And if you think about it is a lot like the end of the world. The end of the world as you know it; the end of the world for you and this beautiful person.
Now you will be living in a completely different world. A new world where they will no longer be part of your life, at least not physically. But that doesn’t mean they are no longer with you.
It’s okay to cry.
Feel the pain, embrace it, live it and when you’re ready, know that it’s okay to let go so you can heal and continue living your life.
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief… and unspeakable love. ” ~ Washington Irving
Grieving is part of the healing process and it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to cry but keep in mind that life goes on. And if you can’t find the inner strength to let go and come back to life you will miss many precious moments with many of the people that are still alive and who want to share their love with you.
It can be really dangerous to dwell in the pain for too long. And if you get stuck, not only you will miss out on life, feeling depressed and unhappy, but you will also create a lot of pain for the many beautiful people that are still present in your life.
Letting go doesn’t mean you forget about them. It just means that you’re ready to continue your journey and live the life you came here to live…
“There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.” ~Author Unknown
You are not alone. This too shall pass.
I wrote this piece when my grandfather passed away in the hope that it will bring some peace and comfort those who are dealing with the loss of a loved one. I didn’t even have time to see him before he died. He was such a beautiful soul, always happy, always cheerful and always full of jokes.
I really loved him!
I always enjoyed being around him because of his pure and radiant energy. When I found out that he left this world, a feeling of peace, immense love, and a sort of bliss came over me. I was not saddened but rather at peace, because deep down inside I knew he knowing that he found peace and joy as he has returned in the arms of his beautiful wife – my grandmother, who died many years ago.
R.I.P grandpa and thank you for sharing your beautiful presence with us all. I know you are watching over us all and I am really grateful for all the beautiful lessons I have learned from you.
If you know other ways you can deal with the loss of a loved one in a positive manner, feel free to share it bellow, chances are that many people will benefit from it.