“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching, Love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening, And live like it’s heaven on earth.” ~ William W. Purkey
Are you in need of change? Does your life feel out of control? Is stress taking its’ toll on you? Then you need to give your LIFE a MAKEOVER.
“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” ~ Mary Engelbreit
I read those words of wisdom one day and my life has not been the same since! Those words gave me the hope and motivation necessary to treat myself to a much-needed life makeover! I memorized those words and committed myself to changing what I can in my life and changing my thinking about the things that I could not change.
5 Inspiring Steps to Give Your Life a Makeover
1. Pulling weeds
Pulling weeds was the first for me. What I mean by pulling weeds is to let go of the negative people from your life. These are the people who are more of obstacles rather than friends or people who support your hopes, goals, and dreams. People who are miserable cannot stand to see anyone happy and will try to keep you down with them.
2. Surround yourself with like-minded people
These should be people who are positive and enthusiastic about life. You need friends who will support you in your new way of life. Always remember that positive attracts positive!
3. Love yourself and taking “ME” time
The third step is learning to love yourself and taking “ME” time. You know how when you acquire a new someone special in your life and you go out of your way to please them and make them happy? We should always do this for ourselves. An important lesson I have learned over the years is that you cannot love anyone if you do not love yourself first. Another way to look at it is if you do not love yourself then how can you expect someone else to love you as deserve to be loved?
You really need to take time out for yourself because you need to get to know yourself. You need to understand why you feel the way that you do about things. It is also good to know why you avoid certain things in your life.
This will empower you. You deserve pampering and should not be afraid to say nice things to yourself while looking in the mirror. So many of us are guilty of losing ourselves in a relationship and we cannot just bleed ourselves dry without consequences. This is how we end up sick and miserable. This is how our lives spiral out of control.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all Wisdom.” ~ Aristotle
4. Take time out to think and meditate
You do not have to be an expert at meditation to calm your mind. The main goal is to clean out the garbage from the day and relax your mind so that it can be at its’ very best the next day. I think of this step as preventive maintenance like caring of your car, for example; changing the oil.
You need to care for your mind as well as you would a luxury vehicle. You need to stop scaring yourself, dwelling on negativity, and beating yourself up. All of these things can make or break your life. Instead, focus on the new positive changes that you want to bring about.
“Be kind to your mind.” ~ Louise Hay
5. Learn to Live in the Now
Last but not least, learn to live in the NOW. I have found this to be very necessary when you want to relieve yourself of stress. I used to stay awake all night long worrying about tomorrow. I would obsess about things that I could not do anything about. Since then I have learned that this is very unhealthy. Now that I have learned to look for the joy in this moment and not worry about the future I live a much happier and healthier life. When I lived in the past I was quite depressed. I had to learn that I could not have a bright future to look forward to or a happy present life by dwelling on my past. Learning to live in the now has been very beneficial to me. I now realize that every moment of every day I have a choice and I now choose peace, love, joy, and happiness!
“With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
This article was written by Andrea Picarelli.
at 6:53 pm
I love all of these suggestions. I have to work on them all, however the main one is removing negative people from my life. I find myself allowing these same individuals in over and over. I am enlightened on their toxicity. Thank you for all that you do! I look forward to reading Purpose Fairy every single day!
at 6:20 pm
My weeds that were really hard to pull were, of course, family members. I do not believe blood relationship somehow gives anyone the right to be more disrespectful or more boundary-less than any other perosn. So I pulled those weeds and I am so much happier for it.
at 3:54 pm
what if the weeds are your adolescent kids who are battling their own issues? Me time is a haven, living in the now is my mantra. The other points are all in check except that darn weeding. Letting go isn’t optional it seems as I have a terminal illness and not much time here.
at 6:59 am
Hi Andrea, pulling people out can work if there are no burned edges with them and a combinations of right/wrong, blame/regret game. good for you, as long as you are complete about that 🙂
All the very best for you,
at 3:35 am
My weeds that I refer to were my Father and my soon to be ex-Husband. If I wanted a life without regret and misery I had to pull them like weeds and cast them out of my life. Sometimes the best choices in life are not easy. sacrifice equals success. Thank you so much for reading my article and commenting! Now that I have pulled my weeds I can do what I love again which is write! So now I am chasing my dream of becoming a New York Times Best Selling Author! Thanks a million for your support!
All My Best,
at 12:56 pm
Most of the “weeds” were family members.It is hard to take them out of my life,but I let them know we are done.I disowned them and let them know why.Now they act surprised!I do feel better.
at 3:34 pm
Love, love, love the “pulling weeds” analogy! So true! Thanks Purpose Fairy!!!