To love your authentic self is to surrender to this idea that who you are is already whole and complete. And that nothing you say or do can add any value to that. But first, you have to peel off the extra layers of unworthiness, fear, insecurity, and darkness in order to get to the real you. ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
You want someone Out there to love you. But do you love your authentic self? Can you look in the mirror and honestly say to yourself: ‘I love you?’
You cannot expect others to love you when you don’t even love yourself. For, in the end, you will only encounter people who will mirror back at you how poorly you yourself think of yourself.
5 Things You Can Do To Love Your Authentic Self More
1. Stop undervaluing yourself.
You are not perfect, nobody is and that is perfectly fine, so stop being so harsh on yourself. Start paying close attention to your own thoughts and see whether they serve you or not. Are these thoughts good thoughts, are they kind and loving, are they empowering? If not, let them go and shift your focus from the things you think are wrong with you towards the things that are okay, towards those things that are unique and beautiful. If you don’t know what those things are, go ask a friend and you will soon find out what an incredible being they think you are.
If you continue to look down at yourself, expect others to do the same, because just like William Hazlitt said,
He who undervalues himself is justly undervalued by others. ~ William Hazlitt
2. To love your authentic self more, you need to cut yourself some slack.
Don’t be afraid to express yourself, don’t be afraid to speak your mind and don’t be afraid to be who you are, and act the way you feel like. The world is full of people who act the way others want them to and not the way they want to … you don’t have to live your life that way.
I can tell you from my own experience the moment you accept yourself completely and the moment you start acting the way you feel like acting, more and more people will be drawn to you and not only you will realize there is so much about you to love, but you will also start projecting this love on to others.
3. Become a friend to yourself.
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself and if you don’t work on building and improving this relationship, chances are you will not be too happy. Be kind and loving towards yourself and make an effort to start seeing yourself as your own best friend because the moment you do, you will realize there is no friendship more valuable than the friendship you have with your own self.
What are the things you love to do and what keeps you away from actually doing them? What are the excuses you are using not to do these things? Can you let go of these excuses and start spoiling yourself from time to time? I think you can and I also think you should allow yourself to be happy.
Friendship with one’s self is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
4. To love your authentic self more, learn to invest in yourself.
Take time to learn and to grow. Take the time to nurture your dreams and goals; to take action and commit to making them happen. By doing so, you will have little or no time at all to waste on stuff that bothers you. And all your focus, energy, and attention will be directed towards the improvement of self.
If you only do this one step, I promise you, you will be living a happy and fulfilling life. And many of the people around you will admire you and also feel inspired by your actions and behaviors.
There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self. ~ Aldous Huxley
5. To love your authentic self more, give yourself, and others the gift of forgiveness.
You can’t ignore the role forgiveness plays in all of this. Whether we are talking about others, or only yourself, it is crucial to understand the power of forgiveness, and why it is imperative that you exercise it. Because by not forgiving others, and yourself you are keeping yourself from experiencing life fully.
- Who are the people you need to forgive, and why?
- Do you I need to forgive myself?
- Is there something from the past that hasn’t yet been healed because it hasn’t yet been forgiven?
- Can I forgive them?
- Can I forgive myself?
To let go of resentments is to free yourself from the prison of your attachments – to any past pains and hurts and realize that forgiveness was always the key to your freedom. ~ Luminita D. Saviuc
When you forgive, you set yourself free. And a good way would be to regard the people you need to forgive as teachers. This way it will become easier for you to forgive so that you can find the strength to move on and enjoy life.
And these are the 5 things you can do to love your authentic self more. I hope these things will inspire and empower you to open your heart a little so that you can love yourself some more.
**What about you? Are you good to yourself? On a scale of 1 to 10, how good?
~love, Luminita 💫