“Family faces are magic mirrors. Looking at people who belong to us, we see the past, present and future. We make discoveries about ourselves.” Gail Lumet Buckley
Once upon a time, there was a man and a woman. The man and woman joined their family “trees” and made new branches called “babies”. The two family branches become one. The new branches begin to grow. Love nourished the tree.
The seasons went by quickly. The new branches of the tree grew strong, but the trunk of the tree began to weaken. The leaves would not grow back. It felt sad.
The family tree was not receiving the nourishment of “love” it needed. The trunk and leaves would not grow strong. The mother and the father trees that became one tree felt sick inside. The sickness did not mean the tree would die. It did mean the tree needed to be pruned with love.
Love feels like sunshine. It is kind, gentle and warm. It does not use angry words or actions to harm. It uses light and warmth to create growth. It takes away the hurt. When the family tree is not growing new leaves, it is time to re-plant it. If the trunk is bending with sadness it is time to prune. Pruning a tree means saying goodbye to the parts that are no longer growing.
Once the tree is pruned it has a new shape. The family tree looks completely different. The new shape of the family tree can feel strange at first. It takes a few seasons for the new roots to get the nourishment it needs.
When the family tree is pruned with love and compassion the new shape of the tree reveals secret surprises. The surprises feel happy. The surprises look like a garden. The surprise of a flower bloom reveals its beauty. A garden is made up of many different types of trees, bushes, flowers, and insects. A healthy garden needs to be weeded and nourished with the sunshine.
Does your family look like a garden?
What type of tree or flower would you be?
“The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family.” Thomas Jefferson
Trees and gardens are very important for our world. Without the trees “people”, the families that make of the different trees and gardens, the earth would be lonely. We can create healthy people with healthy family shapes by choosing to nourish ourselves with love. Love feels like sunshine. It takes courage to change shape. It takes strength to choose a new environment that best supports growth. In loving support of your healthiest garden possible with lots of sunshine…
This article was written by Monica Macha