So many of us were raised to believe that there is only one way of living our lives, and somehow, we know that way, and if anybody dares to live differently, we will make sure that they know how wrong they are, and we will do our best to “help” them. Who is it exactly that you are trying to help? Is it them or is it just you?
You may not realize it but the things you are doing, your good intentions are not really that good, for you don’t really care so much about their happiness as much as you do about your own. When you work with them on making sure that they know how “wrong” they are, making sure that they know how, the things they are doing and the way they are living their lives is not right, whether you realize it or not, you do it for yourself and not to “help” them.
Do Judgements Prevent You from Seeing the Good in Others?
You are so comfortable with having things go your way, with having reality be in a certain way, that, when you encounter a situation or a person that is acting differently, you immediately want to adjust it to your own reality, instead of you allowing it to be the way it is, without labeling it, without resisting it and without trying to change it.
There are no good or bad situations, right or wrong, there are no bad or good behaviors, kind or not so kind… Things are just the way they are, and the moment we label them as being one or another, we risk causing a great deal of stress, for us and for the many people around us. Energy is contagious, and like a virus, it will duplicate and spread, whether you are aware of it or not.
So why not allow people, events, situations, etc. to just be the way they are? Why not give it a try and see how will that make you feel? Remember that, just like Wayne Dyer said it,
“Judgements will only prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.”