8 Powerful Steps To Positive Thinking

“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.” ~ Unknown

It’s so much easier to be pessimistic than to be optimistic, isn’t it? To look at the half-empty glass instead of the half-full glass, to criticize and complain instead of expressing our appreciation and gratitude for everything that happens to us and all around us. Well, not anymore. Today I want to present you with 8 steps toward more healthy and positive thinking and hopefully, you will realize that it’s a lot easier to be positive than to be negative, and it’s a lot easier and healthier to be optimistic than pessimistic.

1. Focus on what you want.

The mistake that most of us make when having a problem is to talk about it over and over again instead of focusing on the end result, instead of focusing on what we want to achieve.

→ 7 Tremendous Effects of Having a Positive Attitude

2. Know that every problem comes with a lesson.

There is always a lesson in everything that happens to us, and we should constantly look for what that lesson is and master it, because you see, just like Confucius said: If you make a mistake and do not correct it, this is called a mistake.”

→ 10 Clever Ways to Deal with the Ups and Downs of Life

3. Don’t believe everything you think. 

Our problems aren’t as big as our minds are trying to convince us, and if you choose to believe every negative thought that goes through your mind, you will always get into trouble. Observe your mind, observe your thoughts, but don’t identify yourself with them. Go beyond them.

→ 15 Ways to Change Your Thoughts and Transform Your Life

4. Dwell in gratitude. 

Choose to express gratitude for everything that happens to you, whether good or bad and for every person with whom you interact. The more you express your gratitude, the more you will have to express gratitude for, and when you’re busy focusing on the many things that you are grateful for, there will be no room left for stress and worry, there will be no room left for negativity.

→ The Power Of Gratitude – Why Gratitude Brings Happiness

5. Know that there is a reason for everything

Everything that happens to you, happens for a reason and every person who enters your life enters for a reason, and it’s your responsibility not to label them as being good or bad, negative or positive, etc.

6. Let go of your need for perfection.

When you try to do everything perfectly, you meet with stress and frustration, because it is impossible to be perfect in everything you do, and why would you want to be perfect anyway? Don’t you know that perfection leaves no room for improvement?

→ Overcoming Perfectionism: Why Perfectionism Is Really Another Form of Fear

7. Let go of your resistance. 

Accept things as they are without you trying to change them, without trying to fight against them. When you stress over an outcome and when you resist what is, you are in fact fighting against the present moment, against the present reality, against the whole universe, and believe me, this is a battle you will never win. Allow yourself to just be. Go with the flow, and know that life wasn’t meant to be a struggle, even though that’s what your mind was trying to convince you of all these years.

Learn to let go and know that:

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.” ~ Lao Tzu

→ 4 Reasons Why Change Is Good for You

8. Learn to be present in everything you do. 

When you become present and really engaged in the now, your whole life will become so much easier and you will realize how your problems will start to disappear, little by little. If you get too caught up in your mind, if you think too much about what happened in the past and about what may happen in the future, you will create a great deal of pain and suffering, and the energy you will generate will be toxic, not only for yourself but also for those around you, because you see, energy is contagious.

→ How to Get out of Your Head and into the Present Moment

~love, Luminita 💫

** How do you keep your mind positive when things aren’t going the way you want them to go? When stress arises and life sends challenging people and experiences your way? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below


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Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita, the Founder of PurposeFairy, is an enthusiastic student of the arts, psychology, and spirituality. Her acclaimed blog post, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy , was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Later on, it became the heart of her book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy., book that was published by Penguin Random House. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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  • Lori Katz

    10, September 2012 at 1:57 pm

    Mindfulness and meditation are very integral parts of happiness. I also like to think about the concept of energy – in the sense that we only have so much of it. In negative situations, I ask myself, how much energy do I want to give to this situation? This help me learn to focus less enery on the negative so that I can use the energy I do have at a given time for more positve/fulfilling events in life.

  • Lori Katz

    10, September 2012 at 1:49 pm

    Well said. There is something positive that can come from any situation, no matter how bad it seems. At the very least we’ve learned something.

    I’m glad you included the concept of letting go of perfectionism. Always trying to be 100% in everything you do ultimately ends up lowering our self esteem, rather thatn making us feel better. This concept is so hard for people to understand.

  • Kevin

    15, August 2012 at 10:51 pm

    Hello, thanks for the post, this will help me improve my outlook. @ Dave, thanks too for sharing, we have one life to live and we should harness the positivity needed to enjoy everyday life. Thanks for the post once again

  • Dave

    17, May 2012 at 12:40 pm

    Love your positive, refreshing views on forgiveness and acceptance –NONconditionally, and seeing the life ‘happenings’ as learning sessions, and opportunities to focus on our blessings, etc. etc.. That’s the way I live my life.

    One has only to open 1/2 of one eye and they’ll discover many people around them who are worse off in some way(s), even with my recent diagnosis of hairy cell leukemia, which I’m treating with Donnie Yance’s holistic / alternative protocol.

    Speaking of folk ‘worse off than I,’ there are literally hundreds of millions who do not know about the gift of salvation thru Christ, but are endlessly ”working their way” to nowhere!

    Straight ahead! Every heart beat and breath is a gift! 🙂

    Appreciate your putting up such life-giving ideas ‘n quotes! A couple Facebook friends shared this AM.

  • Chris Krollage

    14, May 2012 at 1:15 am

    I like most except 5, 5 implies there is fate or destiny.