“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” ~ Mother Teresa
If you look around, you will notice how people are building walls, as many as possible so they can feel safe, so they can feel secure, to protect themselves from the outside world and the danger that it represents for them. I like to think that people are good, that we are all good deep down inside, and that maybe, because of some past and unpleasant events, because of some misfortunes, because they have been hurt and injured emotionally in the past, they are now wearing all kind of masks, in order to protect themselves from being hurt again.
Now, they are afraid of themselves, they are afraid of their own feelings and emotions, they are afraid to love again because they now know that with love comes pain. They are now acting in a destructive way towards themselves and towards others, causing pain, not only to themselves but also to those around them.
Pain Is Temporary, Love Is Forever
When you start protecting yourself from the outside world for too long, when you decide to start protecting yourself from the environment, you will eventually be cut off from it, you will eventually be cut off from the world, and of course, you will be left behind, feeling lost and lonely, not understanding how you got where you are now. For some people, it seams quite hard to understand that it’s not so much about what happens to them that is causing them so much pain, but rather how they choose to process all of these events and information.
It’s all about how we perceive them all, and how we choose to think about them, because you see, we first experience the thought and than the feeling, and if we insist on thinking about how bad we’ve been treated by X or Y person, how they made us feel, how much pain they brought upon us, and how we will get even, we will feel horrible for as long as we shall live.
By acting in such a manner, we will always perceive ourselves as being victims, as people who have no control over their lives, and who are a the mercy of other people’s actions and behaviors, and you and I know that this is not a healthy way of living our lives.
Aren’t you tired of wearing a shield against the world? Don’t you miss the real you? Take a look at yourself in the mirror and see if you recognize yourself. Would you rather pretend to be something that you’re not and feel nothing at all, or would you rather let your guard down in order to be discovered? Allow yourself to be loved again, allow yourself to be vulnerable, and allow yourself to experience life fully.
See yourself for who, and what you really are; see yourself as the beautiful and powerful man/woman that you are, and embrace the real you.
So what if you have been hurt by other people in the past, so what if there is anger, hate, and bitterness in the world? Would you rather focus on the ugly and negative than on the beautiful and positive? Open your heart, and let your own light shine. Love with all your heart, without thinking whether you will be loved back or not. Learn from your mistakes, let yourself be vulnerable, allow people to know and love the real you. Give up the need to protect yourself from all that is bad in the world. Give up the need to hide and protect yourself from the pain and suffering that others could cause you.
Love, laugh, dance and play. Do all those things that make you happy, and don’t let some past events keep you in a dark and unhappy place. Be true to yourself. Get out of your self-made prison, give up your shields, give up your masks and decide that is time for you to start living again. It’s time for you to go back to being brave and confident. It’s time for you to allow the world to see how powerful and how loving you really are. No more protecting from the outside world. Embrace what is, don’t resist it, don’t fight against it, don’t hide from it, and just allow it to be, knowing that pain is temporary, while love is forever. Just be.