How I Healed Myself from Unhappy Syndrome
To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him. ~Buddha
Whenever you are feeling low, whenever you are feeling down, tell yourself yourself: This too shall pass!
Nothing ever lasts forever and whether you are happy or unhappy, know that none of those feelings will last forever. They will eventually go away and they will be replaced by something else.
For almost two months I felt sick, low on energy, demotivated and at times unhappy. It took me quite sometime to recover but I am happy to say that I am back to being me and I feel amazing
In two of my earlier posts, I talked about WHAT I was feeling and HOW I ended up feeling that way and today I want to share with how I healed myself from “unhappy syndrome”, how I got back to feeling peaceful, centered, happy and serene.
Tired of feeling tired, unhappy and moody most of the time, I decided to start working on the list of things I was holding on to that created most of that unhappiness.
At the same time, I decided to do one of my favorite FORGIVENESS exercises called Hoʻoponopono. I had really great results with it in the past and I wanted to see maybe it can help me once again.
I believe in self love and I believe it’s very important to treat yourself with kindness, love and respect no matter what. I can be harsh on myself at times I knew I was in need of some self forgiveness. I’m cheesy like that
Forgiveness is not something you only do for others, forgiveness is also something you do for yourself in order to let go of the unnecessary pain, guilt in order to move on with your life, and that’s exactly what I dd.
I remember doing the exercise for 15 minutes or so and after that I immediately went to feeling very light and at peace.
I knew what was happening and I knew I was getting back on track
I started to smile and in that moment it literally felt like my heart started smiling with me. I began filling my heart with gratitude and the more I was focusing on the good feelings, the more of them I would feel.
My intention was to give up all the resistance I had towards those negative feelings but after the forgiveness exercise there was no resistance left. The resistance disappeared by itself when I did the exercise.
Things began to shift the moment I decided to start working on getting back to being true to myself, back to feeling good and from that moment onwards it literally felt like everything started to work FOR me and no longer AGAINST me.
I was working towards something and no longer against something. I knew from personal experience that Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you. ~Wayne Dyer
I had to change the stories I kept telling myself and by doing so I started to change my reality and the feelings I was feeling. My focus was no longer on blaming and criticising but rather on acceptance, responsibility and forgiveness.
I was no longer focusing on what I didn’t have, what was missing, what was lacking but rather on what I wanted to feel and on what I wanted to attract in my life – only good feelings and great experiences.
Now that I am back to being me, I wake up every morning with a big smile on my face, I sleep like a baby, I no longer get irritated by what other people say or do and what’s most important, I am more productive and a lot more inspired when it comes to writing on my first book. When things are good, they are really good, when they are bad, they are really bad… I’ll stay with the GOOD
So, whenever you’re feeling unhappy, look for the thoughts that will make you feel happy. Don’t go around telling everyone how horrible you feel, like I did. Not proud of that one but I am learning from my own mistakes.
The more you talk about your “problems” the more you identify with them and the harder it will be for you to find a way out.
We never solve our problems. We outgrow them. ~Carl Jung
Whenever we are feeling low, the best thing to do for ourselves is to accept whatever it is that we are feeling as if we have chosen it while at the same time shift our focus and attention to it’s opposite.
Resistance will not take us anywhere, on the contrary, What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size. ~Carl Gustav Jung
Know that it’s okay to feel down from time to time and know that you always have a choice to choose something else. It’s not the end of the world and it’s not as devastating and drastic as the mind is trying to convince you….
Observe the thoughts that run through your mind and the feeling you feel without any judgment and no matter what happens, please don’t believe everything you think, especially if it’s negative and self defeating.
If the story you tell yourself and those around you is a sad one, let it go. Change the story with one that makes you feel better, one that is more empowering and more inspiring. Fake it until you become it!
The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. ~Confucius
Whether you like it or not, it’s you who’s in charge of your happiness and wellbeing, you and no one else… It’s your responsibility, you job. So go on and change your thoughts so you can change your beliefs, and change your stories so you can change your life
When I examine myself and my methods of thought, I come to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than any talent for abstract, positive thinking. ~Albert Einstein
How often do you find yourself identifying yourself with your sad stories and how often do you catch yourself sharing these sad stories with those around you? Share your insights by commenting bellow or by posting your lovely comment on the PurposeFairy Facebook Page. And if you’ve enjoyed reading this post, feel free to share it with your loved ones.